My Real Life

April 7, 2012

All You Need is Time

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All you need is love?

No, John…all you need is time.

This is my kitchen:

For every piece of paper I throw away, 17 more appear.

The amount of paper and crap my children bring into the house every single day is mind-boggling.

And, I don’t keep it!

I look at it and toss it.  We hang up tests and quizzes for a week, and then they meet their maker, as well.

Heck, I’m even the heartless mother who only keeps kids art work if it has a hand print, foot print, or photo of the kid on it.

There’s just so much.

See the paper bag on the island chair?

Last week, I decided I would do an experiment and see how much stuff was coming home with the kids in a week.

That was my second bag for last week.

Two full grocery bags of papers and “stuff” in a week.

Nonsense.

I love organization and toyed with becoming a professional organizer at one point (I know…looking at that picture, no one would believe it) and so I have the tools down.

I have a small basket for mail, and I toss junk mail as soon as it comes in.

I have memory bins for all of the keepsake things that do come home.

We have a place on the invisible inside of the cabinets where I hang school schedules and lunch menus.

And still, this is what my kitchen looks like during a work week.

Now, I realize I am a full-time working mother of four.

I’m not looking for perfection.

But this drives me insane.

Something’s gotta give, and I fear, before long, it will be my sanity.

What I really need, though, is time.

That’s the struggle I have with the kitchen.

There isn’t enough time.

I love my kitchen.  It is absolutely the hub of our home.

However, it is absolutely the hub of our home.

Things get dropped on a counter, left on the table, stuck in a bin, set on a chair.

And then, eventually, pushed into a pile until I have a good two hours to do something in the kitchen other than cook, monitor homework, stop a baby from slamming his fingers in the cabinets, make appointments and phone calls, update the calendar, etc.

Two hours.

And the kitchen looks like this:

Time.

Time is all you need.

April 6, 2012

Five Question Friday

1. Would you prefer having people over for dinner or going to their house?

Having people over.

I am all about the home field advantage.

Even though socializing isn’t a game you can win.

Until it is.

2. Favorite Bible verse and why?

It would probably surprise people that I can even quote Bible verses.

However, I am a ministers daughter, and spent more hours in church in my first 18 years than most people do in their entire lives.

I also used to have a little Bible in my nightstand, like I lived in a hotel or something.

And, when I was learning to read, I did so by reading the Bible.

I can also recite all the books of the Old Testament in order.

Don’t ask.

Anyway, the first verse I memorized was Luke 24:25.

“Oh fools with hearts so slow, to believe everything the prophets have spoken…”

It’s much longer than that and what I had memorized was about a paragraph or two long.

They used to rent me out for parties to recite the Bible.

I kid.  I kid.

Anyway, today, all I can remember is that line.

It’s when Jesus appears to some of his followers after he has been resurrected and he hasn’t yet revealed himself to be Jesus.

So, I don’t have a favorite Bible verse as I haven’t actually picked up a Bible in a very, very long time.

Yet, I’m going to guess that as a child, Luke 24:25 was my favorite verse.
3. What was the first concert you ever attended, and the most recent one?

Hmmm…my first concert was either the Steve Miller Band at, what was then called, the PNC Arts Center OR Billy Joel at Yankee Stadium.  Steve Miller was a good concert, Billy Joel was a PHENOMENAL concert.

4. The year is 2025. What are you doing, and what have you done?

13 years from now.

Well, first of all, I’ll have a 24 year old, a 21 year old, a 19 year old and a 14 year old.

Unimaginable to me.

I will have been teaching for 29 years and will still be teaching.  (I’ll actually have been teaching for 31 years at that point, but the pension system didn’t recognize my time at a private school.)

I’ll be 53 years fabulous.

I’ll be working on my third novel.

Over the summers we’ll be traveling with the kids to Europe and all kinds of cool places.

We’ll be happy and living a good life.

5. What’s your favorite Easter treat?

Nothing, anymore, but in the days where I could actually eat Easter treats, it was the Reese’s Peanut Butter eggs, hands down.

I could eat 10 of those puppies at a pop, without even batting an eye.

April 5, 2012

Day at the (Chilly) Beach

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Monday was the first day of our Spring Break.

Real Man took the day off and we bundled everyone up and headed down to the beach.

One of the best things about where we live is our proximity to everything.

We can make a day trip to the beach.

We can make a day trip to NYC.

We can make a day trip to Philly.

We can make a day trip to just about anywhere.

So, on Monday, we traveled in nice, light traffic to Point Pleasant.

Our first stop was the Aquarium, and then we walked the boardwalk, checked out the arcades (without spending a dime, although Baby Monkey found a nickel, so some may say we ended up ahead of the game), and walked on the beach.

It reaffirmed Monkey Girl’s wish (for the time being) to be a marine biologist and work with dolphins, in particular (because she was outraged that the aquarium had no dolphins)…we even had to rent A Dolphin’s Tale from Redbox upon our return ($1 well-spent…really touching movie).

It made Monkey in the Middle very happy because he pointed out all of the security cameras in the aquarium and on the boardwalk.  One of his favorite pastimes.

Baby Monkey loved it because the Point Pleasant boardwalk has a train that rides in a circle around all the rides, and even though the train wasn’t on and we didn’t ride the rides that were functional, we walked by the train twice and that, alone, made him happy.  And, he loved that fact that he almost blew away on the beach.

And Tiny contemplated his own mortality as sharks three times his size stopped in the window to check him out.  He is one tasty morsel.

For Real Man and I, it was precious time spent with our family at one of our favorite locations.  We laughed all day long.

Well, except for when we got home and Real Man and the older boys were out in the backyard having a catch, when, in the neighbors yard, a hawk swooped down, grabbed a squirrel in mid-sprint, choked it to death with it’s talons and proceeded to rip it to shreds and eat it.

We didn’t laugh so much then.

But it was cool.

Wild Kingdom ain’t got nothin’ on the suburbs.

It was one of the nicest days I’ve had in a very, very long time.

April 4, 2012

Guilty

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Apparently, after less than a day of deliberation. the jury found the defendant in my Juror Number Me story guilty of all counts.

Thought you all might like to know the result.

http://www.dailyrecord.com/article/20120404/NJNEWS/304040019/Kleber-Cordova-found-guilty-of-drowning-wife-in-bathtub-in-Morristown

Wordless Wednesday: Best Friends

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April 3, 2012

Truthful Tuesday – Music of My Heart

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Today’s question comes from Jen.

Jen writes: Truthfully, who is your favorite singer, corny or not.

My favorite singer really varies with time, so I don’t have any one favorite singer.

Right now, I’m a sucker for Gavin DeGraw.

I’ve always liked his music when it’s come out and been current, but then I kinda forget about it and move on.

However, with Spotify, I just type in his name and I get to listen to all of his music, at once.

(A colleague of mine recently pondered the purpose of Spotify, beyond letting everyone know what you are listening to.  For me, the purpose of Spotify is for me to listen to all the music I want to, where I want to, for free.)

And so, I find myself listening to his stuff over and over again, and I realize just how much of his work I love.

In a broader sense, I like a lot of male singers.

There’s just something about the quality of their voices.

Very soulful.

I love to listen to Michael Buble, Harry Connick, Jr., Josh Groban.

I could listen to any of them all day, every day.

As for female singers, I appreciate people who have crisp, clear voices.

I realize that it might sound trite, these days, to use her as a favorite, but Whitney Houston singing a ballad, in her heyday, was unparalleled.

I could also listen to Celine Dion sing her ballads again and again and again.

I get goosebumps when she hits some of those high notes.

Or even when she’s singing “My Heart Will Go On” and she gets to that part where she kicks it up a step or two.

Shivers.

But, then I like a soulful woman’s voice, as well.

Adele is currently rocking my socks, and I love, love, love Fiona Apple (even though we don’t hear much from her anymore).

And yet, when Charlotte Church came out (the teenage opera singer from the UK a few years back…okay, probably more than a few, but time has lost any sort of meaning for me now that I’ve hit forty…as far as I’m concerned, everything happened yesterday) I wore out my CD.  Actually, it might have even been a cassette.  Don’t remember.  But I LOVED it.

Oh, and I am a huge fan of Mariah Carey when she was a new artist.

Her first album.

Kim can tell you.

So, those are the voices that move me.

A different question could have been, “What type of music do you listen to?” because while they sound similar, they are quite different indeed.

But, that’s for another day.

I am remiss…I rarely edit a post after it has gone live, but I’ve just been reminded of my other  BIG TIME vocal love.  Eddie Vedder.  Oooh Mama…something about that voice absolutely captivates me.  I could listen to Eddie Vedder and no one else for the rest of my life.  Love his stuff with Pearl Jam, and LOVE his solo stuff.  The soundtrack to “Into the Wild” is one of my favorite albums (is album even a thing anymore?) of all time.  So sorry, Eddie.  That’s what I get for writing a blog while watching Dancing with the Stars.  Thanks for the reminder, Angela.

April 2, 2012

Diving In

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So, some of the comments, on the Juror Number Me series, were that I should write a book.

To which I responded, “I did!”

A few years ago, I wrote a novel called The Follow Through.

However, I never really worked hard at trying to get it published.

I want to have it published.

I just haven’t put in the legwork.

I did enter it in the Amazon Breakthrough Novel Contest and made it to the semi-finals, but not all the way.

I took the comments that the reviewers made and made some tweaks and then pretty much that was that.

I don’t beat myself up over this because, let’s be honest…I don’t have all the time in the world.

However, I should have made the time.

I also haven’t really been prioritizing my writing for awhile.

While I was on maternity leave, I got a lot of writing done.

New babies eat and sleep and eat and sleep and sleep and sleep.

I’ve never been able to nap while the baby naps, so while the baby slept, I wrote.

And then I went back to work and that was that.

However, I have a bunch of stories running around in my head that I just need to get to paper.

And so…combine that with my friend, Heather’s, suggestion that I turn Monday into novella day, I’ve made a decision.

Every Monday, I will post part of a story I am writing.

This will help me make sure I write and be accountable for doing so (because imagine how embarrassing if I have to say “I got nothin’ today”) and will also broaden my writing portfolio.

And, hopefully, be entertaining for all of you.

So, here is your fair warning…starting next Monday, it will be Monday’s Mini-Stories (although I’m hoping to come up with a more clever title that than…doesn’t bode well for the stories if that’s the best name I can come up with).

In the meantime, if you are interested in knowing more about my novel, feel free to check out my author blog.  I haven’t been diligent about keeping it up at all so don’t expect much.  However, this link will take you directly to the story synopsis.

 

Please remember, I am always actively taking questions for Truthful Tuesday.  No question too big or too small!

April 1, 2012

Gratitude

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Real Man tells me that I have posted this before.

I have no recollection of it, and if I did, I apologize, but I feel strongly it should be said again.

Today, I feel the need to share my gratitude.

For what, you ask?

It’s not a what, it’s a who.

Today I am giving thanks for Tiny’s babysitter.

I cannot tell you how it feels to be able to go to work and not worry about him.

Please note…I said not worry about him.

I think about him all day long and wonder what he’s doing.

But I never, never worry.

She loves him as if he were her own, and he loves her right back.

In the morning, when I drop him off, he leaps out of my arms to get to her.

In the afternoon, when I pick him up, he leaps right back into mine.

And it’s not just her.

It’s her family.

As he was learning all of our names, he was also learning theirs and gets just as excited when we ask him where they are as he does when we ask where his siblings are.

During the day, he isn’t just watched.

He is loved, he is treasured, he is cared for.

We bumped into her and her children at the Science fair the other night and Tiny just about had a heart attack when he saw them.

I’ve had a few people ask if I’m jealous of how much he loves her.

My response is this:

I’m thrilled that he spends his days with someone who makes him feel as safe and happy as she clearly does.  How wonderful if we all spent every second of our days feeling cherished and secure.  Jealous?  Not for a second.  Grateful?  Beyond words.

March 31, 2012

Reflection

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Best scene in a movie (or book) ever.

I find myself thinking of it quite a lot these past few weeks.

My heart aches.

It’s long, but if you haven’t seen it, please watch it all.

March 30, 2012

Five Question Friday

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1. What giveaway would you like to do on your blog?
I’d love to give away an iPad.
How awesome would that be?
Read my blog, win an iPad.
Sorry.  Not happening.
2. If you had to choose between natural artistic ability and natural athletic ability, which would it be?
Natural artistic ability.
With natural athletic ability, if I got hurt, I wouldn’t matter how much natural ability you had, you’d be outta the game.
With natural artistic ability, it could be with me forever, barring some strange hand accident.
3. Do you ditch the coat the minute it becomes “spring” or are you a holdout for more cool temps?
I don’t buy “spring”… particularly early “spring.”
So, this year, in particular, I haven’t been believing the hype.
And, then, finally, I busted out my spring dresses.
I got two days out of them.
And then it was back to the 40’s.
Shame on me.
You’ll never fool me again, spring.
4. What would you do if you won the mega millions lotto of 1/2 billion dollars?
I believe I’ve covered this in a previous post, but I’ll play along.
Buy an Audi R8.  For me.  And only for me.
Put away enough money for all the monkeys to go to college (or help buy a home if they decide college isn’t in their plan).
Repaint the inside of the house and build a sunroom in the back.
Buy a riding mower, a shed for garden tools, a playset for the monkeys.
Buy a generator.
Give a bunch away to charity and create an endowment at the local library.
Put the rest away and spend the rest of my life traveling with Real Man and the monkeys and just enjoying the heck outta every day.
5. You are at a hotel by yourself…what do you do?
I’ve actually been at a hotel by myself, a few times, while I was presenting for the Techspo conference, a few years in a row, in Atlantic City.
I took a long bath and read while I was in the tub.
I got out of the tub, put on my jammies and crawled into that huge bed and read some more.
And fell asleep by 8:30 pm and slept until 8:30 am.
It was very, very nice.
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