My Real Life

August 22, 2013

The Summer My Heart Broke

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 6:00 am

This was it.

This was the summer my beautiful, strong, amazing daughter decided she wasn’t good enough.

My girl who used to not be able to get her bathing suit on fast enough and get to the beach suddenly dressed slower, on vacation, because she was worried about how she looked in that suit and found herself lacking.

And it broke my heart.

My daughter is tall.  She’s solid.  She’s strong.  She is beautiful.

Her friends are all smaller and slighter and willowy and, as I watch her with them, I’m starting to see her slouch and hunch and hide.

“Stand up!” I want to yell.  She has nothing to hide.

I want to shake her and tell her that I always wanted to be tall, like her.  I want her to know that when she grows up, women will be dying to have her height.

My girl is smart.  So freaking smart.

She is funny and kind.  So kind.

She is the best person I know and when I grow up, I want to be her.

This is the summer that broke my heart because I remember her standing proudly in that bathing suit, racing down the beach, not giving any thought at all to how she, or anyone else, looked.

And I know that, like the Emperor who saw that he was naked, once you cross that line, you can never go back.

August 20, 2013

Twisted MixTape – One Night Stand

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 6:00 am

So, while I certainly don’t condone the action that makes up the topic for this weeks Twisted MixTape blog hop, I can’t deny that One Night Stands have been the fodder for some amazing music over the years.

One of my all-time favorite songs is “Save Tonight” by Eagle Eye Cherry.

I have always, always enjoyed this song.

It’s so upbeat and gets my toes to tapping and if you don’t listen to the lyrics, you can pretend it’s a happy little ditty.

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“All I Wanna Do is Make Love to You” by Heart is a song that fits into this category that makes my skin crawl.

Seriously.

I dated this guy in college and it was his favorite song.

He would totally rock out to it and it gave me the heebie-jeebies.

 

“Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?” by the Shirelles.

Even in 1960, they were singing about this topic, although I have a feeling it was a bit more taboo to discuss.

Great song and I like that fact that she is being cautious about the whole thing in this one.

 

“If Only for Tonight” by Luther Vandross.

Oh, Luther.

 

Bonnie Raitt has always captured me with her voice, and one of my favorites of hers is “I Can’t Make You Love Me.”

Such a great tune and she sings it so plaintively.

Just a beautiful song and when you hear it, you just feel so badly for her.

Then you remember she’s a multimillionaire, country singer and you feel less sorry.

But still sorry.

 

What would the 70’s have been without Juice Newton?

Seriously.

“Just Call Me Angel of the Morning” fits the category and I was singing this song LONG before I had any idea what the words meant.

August 19, 2013

Education Series: Homeschool

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 6:00 am

So, obviously, I’m interested in education.

I know a lot about the topic, but the truth is, most of what I know is about public education.

I’ve always been curious, however, about other education choices, and so I decided that I’d ask a few people about these choices.

Because I think knowledge is always better when shared, I figured I’d share their responses with you!

I decided the three main types of education I’d like to know about were Homeschool, Charter School, and Private School.

Then, I chose to begin with the type I know the least about…Homeschool.

I have quite a few friends and acquaintances who homeschool, but I decided I would go with someone who homeschools in a different state than I do.

So, I went to the wife of an old friend.  Her name is Kelley and she homeschools her three children in Georgia.

Her answers reflect her experience with homeschooling in Georgia, and, as we all realize, every experience varies, so this is simply her opinion and her experience.

How were you educated, as a child?

I attended public school and was fairly miserable most of the time. My husband attended private school.

What shaped your decision to homeschool your children?

There was no 1 single event or factor that led to our decision to homeschool. First and foremost, we are blessed with the opportunity and the choice. Not all countries allow families to make decisions regarding their childrens’ educations (most recently see the decision regarding the Romeike family from Germany). And for that matter, not all states make it easy. We are fortunate to live in a state that, for all intents and purposes, is fairly homeschool friendly. Also, the county we live in does not have the greatest education system. The quality of education varies greatly from school to school and administrator to administrator. The schools are enormous and over crowded. There are (if I am counting correctly) 12-15 high schools in our county, and average enrollment is anywhere from 3000-4000 students.

We also believe that no matter what the school, far too much importance is placed on the results of standardized tests. Our school year started last Wednesday. On Thursday, I had a 3rd grade piano student express anxiety over the standardized test that will take place in the spring. In addition, we do have some health issues in our family that homeschooling has greatly helped. We have 1 child who is way above average intelligence and we were able to challenge her appropriately, where she would have been much more constrained in a traditional school setting. On the flip side, we also have a child with a processing disorder. I have been able to tailor her work, and how she gets it done, to fit her needs without worrying about how 30 other kids in her class were going to be impacted.

Last, our daily schedule has always been fairly unorthodox. It is nice to know that if my kids have the necessity to be up until 11:00, they’re not going to have to catch the bus at 6:15 in the morning-which is when the high school bus comes on our street. We won’t even talk about how I feel about the whole bus issue.

Was it your own experience going through school that made you want to homeschool?

I don’t really think my experience in our school system made me want to homeschool necessarily, but it did make me have serious reservations about putting our kids in “the system”

Would you have chosen homeschooling, even if you lived somewhere else?

I can’t say I would have had the courage to start homeschooling if we lived in a different state where homeschooling was more of a challenge. However, having successfully homeschooled for 8 years, I can say that if we moved elsewhere, I would fight tooth and nail to continue.

What is your favorite thing about homeschooling?

My favorite thing about homeschooling, hands down, is the time that I get to spend with my kids. That is more valuable than any “thing” a full time job could have provided our family with. A very close second is being on our own timetable/schedule.

Do you follow a specific homeschool curriculum?

We do not use any 1 particular curriculum program… I have used many different things. One of the beautiful things about homeschooling is that you can meet the needs of each student. So, just because I use one math curriculum for one child, I may not use it for the others. In fact, each year, I reassess the needs of my kids to pick what fits them for what they are studying, and where they are developmentally.

Do you belong to any homeschool groups?

We are members of a couple different groups. First and foremost, Homeschooled Legal Defense Association (HSLDA). Second, Georgia Home Educators Association (GHEA), and finally, I belong to a homeschool mom’s support group. Occasionally we have get together for the kids, but it is mainly mom’s support. We meet once a month. Additionally, our kids have been heavily involved in scouts, and were/are part of a predominately homeschooled group. They have taken homeschool sports and music classes, and this year my son is attending a hybrid school one day per week.

What is the biggest challenge you have faced with regard to homeschooling?

The biggest difficulty we have encountered was getting our oldest child into the military. The civilian contractor in our area who is in charge of education coding has a known bias against homeschoolers. She was asking for ridiculous amounts of documents that public/private schools did not have to provide. We ultimately came to the knowledge that she was violating federal law by asking for these documents. Once I brought it to the attention of HSLDA, the investigator Generals for both Naval Recruiting and Military Entrance Processing, as well as the commander of Military Entrance Processing, out daughter was moved along with much haste.

Are there any myths surrounding homeschooling that you would like to address?

I guessed the thing I would like to dispel is that there is 1 reason for homeschooling, and that all homeschoolers are the same. There are as many reasons for homeschooling as there are families who homeschool. Homeschoolers aren’t any weirder than public/private school kids. They are simply more comfortable with what they believe in and what their interests are. Sometimes they are more “obvious” because they tend to be in public when most kids are “in school” and are therefore more obvious. The question I dislike most is this: how do you socialize your kids? My answer is: properly After all, when kids are “in school”, isn’t talking during class discouraged? So, why on earth would the “s-word” be a reason to send your kids to school. Not to mention that a vast number of kids in “regular school” are not exactly displaying the types of behaviors we want our children to emulate. I have had people ask me “aren’t you afraid you’re giving your children an unrealistic view of the world?” My response is this: we are showing our children that if you don’t like the “status quo”, you have options. Explore them. Educate yourself and find the best option for YOU.

Kelley Hardy is the Preschool Gymnastics Director, Music Instructor, Assistant Martial Arts Instructor at Dacula Family Sports, Dacula GA.

Kelley has a Bachelor of Music Therapy from the University of Georgia, eight years organizing and leading vacation bible school music, ten years teaching preschool choir, and six years combined experience as a preschool and elementary music teacher. During college, Kelley belonged to the Athens Symphony, University of Georgia Symphonic Band, the University of Georgia Redcoat Band, and the Wind Ensemble.

After earning her degree, Kelley went on to intern as a music therapist with the Clayton County Board of Education. 

Kelley loves children, and has wanted to work with them as long as she can remember. She is a mother of three and has had experience as a nanny. She believes physical activity and music should be fun for children so that while they enjoy it now, they will learn to love it for a lifetime.

In addition to Kelley’s experience with children and music, she earned her 4th Dan Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do in June 2012. She got involved with Tae Kwon Do in 2001 when her oldest daughter wanted her to coach, and has stayed involved and loving it ever since. She is Certified AAU Tae Kwon Do Referee. She is also a USA Gymnastics Certified Instructor.

August 14, 2013

Standing Up For Courtney

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Please visit my co-author, Kim’s, website to read about this amazing family and see how you/me/we can help.

Cancer.  Hate it.

 

 

August 13, 2013

Twisted Mixed Tape 1

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 6:00 am

So, a few weeks ago, I stumbled across this site, where Jen was sharing some of her favorite music in the theme of 2000-2013.

It was fun to read, and so when I saw her list of future themes, I thought maybe I would play along.

The theme for today is “Duets” and in Jen’s words “this can be duets or duos like Hall & Oats or Loggins & Messina you decide.”

So, I’m thinking about some of my lifelong favorite duets and sharing them with you today.

It may be painful, but let me just begin by telling you that if my Dad were making this list, you’d be listening to a lot of duets by Linda Ronstadt and Aaron Neville, so YOU’RE WELCOME.

A Friend of Mine

This could be one of the cheesiest songs ever, and the addition of Darryl Hannah just makes it more so, but it falls into the categories of, “When I Hear This Song, I am Instantly Transported to 1985 and I Love It.”  Just a nice, friendly song, even though I never really believed that Jackson Browne and Clarence Clemons were friends, at all.  This duet always makes me tap my toes.

Islands in the Stream

Love this song.  I just love it.  Maybe it’s because Dolly Parton is just so darn cute.  I don’t know, but I love this song.  I play it on Spotify.  Often.

Friends and Lovers

Maybe it’s because, in 1986, I was a freshman in high school and there were many boys who were my friends that I would like to have moved into boyfriend territory.  I don’t know.  What I do know is that I I have always loved this duet, from the very first time I heard it.

Dancing in the Street

I do not love this song.  I do not even remotely love this song.  I have just always thought it was the most ridiculous pairing that somehow made sense, and the video was absolutely the craziest thing I had ever seen.  It was like a car accident on the side of the road that causes rubbernecking for miles because no one…NO ONE can tear their eyes away.

Endless Love

So pretty.  I love this one.  More importantly, I love to sing this one.  I think it is an absolutely beautiful song.

You Don’t Bring me Flowers

Neil Diamond and Barbra Streisand are two of my all-time favorite singers.  Ever.  In the history of the world.  I love the album “The Jazz Singer” by Neil Diamond (and the movie) and I can’t think of a single song Barbra Streisand sings that isn’t absolutely amazing.  Call me a nerd, but there it is.  I think Barbra’s voice is almost unnatural.  I get chills.

Speaking of Barbra…

What Kind of Fool

Close my Eyes Forever

With all of these sweet, sweet love songs, how could I possibly leave out Lita Ford and Ozzy Osbourne???  It’s the baddest love song duet ever.  Although, I was never clear on if it was a love song at all because the lyrics are so strange.  “Like a dagger you stick me in the heart and taste the blood from my blade.”  Love?  Hmmm…

Next Time I Fall

From Lita Ford and Ozzy to, quite possibly, the sweetest woman ever to walk the earth, I love “Next Time I Fall” with Amy Grant and Peter Cetera.  Just love it.  Always have.  Always will.  From 1986 to now.  Hmmm…another 1986 song.  I’m noticing a trend.  Apparently high school was big for me and duets.  Anyway, I just loved this one, back in the day.  I would listen to Amy Grant sing the alphabet and be smitten.

Always

This one is purely personal.  Mark (my brother from another mother) and I sang this one together at a recording studio and it is forever branded on my heart.  Real Man and I even played the version Mark and I made at our wedding.

I’ll stop here, because as I was on YouTube getting these videos, I came across a thousand more.  Harry Connick, Jr. duets, Andrea Boccelli, Josh Groban, Charlotte Church…the list goes on and on.

(edited to add: Just saw Jen’s list for today…cannot BELIEVE I forgot Mockingbird!!!)

August 12, 2013

Back to the Beach – Whirlwind Edition

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 6:00 am

For the past two weeks, we’ve been at the beach with my parents.

It’s been a nice end to our summer.  Yes, school doesn’t start for another few weeks, but it’s our last vacation of the summer, so for us, it signifies the end.

Where the early summer beach vacation with my in-laws finds us in the midst of a hundred people at all times, this is a much quieter vacation.

Both have their merits.

I’ve already shared our July vacation…let’s talk about this one.

There were swings and ice cream and walks with Grandma.

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There was, of course, plenty of time on the beach.

Tiny didn’t quite get the whole “laying on a beach towel” thing, but loved snuggling with Baby, and totally dug hanging out in the forts that Baby would make every day.

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I tried to get a picture for the Christmas card, but was a little early in the evening for that.  Although, I love the fact that they are all shielding their eyes in the same way.

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We hit the boardwalk where Tiny got to play Skee Ball and then embarrass me by throwing a tantrum, the likes of which the Seaside Heights boardwalk had NEVER seen.  Monkey Girl and I rode the “SuperStorm” and felt tough because the marine that went on ahead of us puked when he got off, but we kept our lunches inside our bodies.  We also got to eat Three Brothers Pizza.  The biggest and best pizza in NJ.

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One rainy day, we hit Insectropolis and the monkeys and I got to pet a tarantula, a hissing cockroach, a South African millipede, and a scorpion.  It was awesome.  The ants display gave me the heebie jeebies, the spiders showed up in my dreams, but Baby loved the fact that the mens room was titled “SpiderMen.”

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The beach was exhausting for Tiny who actually fell asleep in the shopping cart in the A&P at 5:30 pm one evening.  It. Was. Hysterical.  Falling asleep on Daddy’s shoulder was much more comfortable.

 

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Baby Monkey had his usual fun with the feeding of the ducks and the swans and keeping us thoroughly entertained with his craft creations.

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And, of course, there was mini-golf.  Barnacle Bills, our favorite golf course, had to rebuild, after Sandy, and they are bigger and better than before.  The kids especially loved the fact that there is mist throughout the course to cool you down, and there is a hole where your ball actually goes through a river which leads it to some grating which rolls it to the hole.  Definitely good times.

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There was a lot of togetherness, which had it’s ups and downs.  More ups than downs, but 8 people in a tight space can be tough, sometimes.

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There was also a lot missing from the beach, this year.  This used to be a street full of houses.  Like, houses that were only a few feet apart.  Now, only 5 remain, and those 5 have all been rebuilt.  Walking up and down the streets, it was unbelievable to see the devastation, and so many of the houses that were still standing were completely gutted, inside.  Businesses have lines on the walls that say “Hurricane Sandy Water Line” and many of those lines were taller than Real Man, who is a tall drink of water to begin with.  Hard to believe it’s almost a year later and so much has been done, and yet so little has been done with regards to rebuilding.

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We had a great two weeks (broken nose aside) and it was a wonderful way to round out a great summer.

Now we are home and back to our routines and missing the ocean and the sand and the daily walks.  So, we start dreaming about next year.

August 7, 2013

Shakey Face

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 6:00 am

So, you may recall that a week or two ago, 15 of my co-authors met up in Chicago for the BlogHer conference and a book signing.

I stayed home to do some laundry.

While they were there, they did some really sophisticated stuff, like lay down in the Sky Tower of the Sears Tower, make videos in empty conference rooms about “How to Win Friends and Affluence People” (spelling error on purpose), and take pictures of themselves making “Shakey Face.”

My co-author, Kerry, of House Talk’n, made a how-to video while they were all out to dinner, and then posted the pictures on her blog.

Check out her post about Shakey Face, here.

She’s asked us to participate, and I’m a good sport, so I went along.

And now, for your viewing pleasure, and because on Wednesday, we all need a good laugh, here is my “Shakey Face.”

(I think the black eyes make it look like I’m being punched)

I couldn’t stop laughing, at first, but then I got to shakin’…

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…and so, ladies and gentlemen, there is my contribution to the “I Just Want to Pee Alone” authors collection of “Shakey Faces.”

August 5, 2013

Color Me Excited!

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 9:05 am

Okay, perhaps “color me”  excited isn’t the correct way to introduce this post, considering the topic, but it’s all I have this morning.

I just found out that I was featured in a list of 25 “Gray Hair” Bloggers That Rock!

You may remember this post, where I described my feelings about going gray.

Apparently someone read it and liked it and included me in a list of very classy women who wrote about their experiences with gray hair.

I am honored to be included among them and am hoping you will go check out the article and read their blogs.

I’ve spent a long time, this morning, reading through them and have thoroughly enjoyed what they’ve had to say.

I love to read about women who are embracing the gray and these women say it well!

Please check out the article and the list and celebrate with me, this morning!

 

August 3, 2013

Humans of New York

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I’m not sure how long ago, but it was awhile, I stumbled across “Humans of New York” on Facebook.

It has become my favorite Facebook follow.

It was started by a man named Brandon who set out to create a photographic census of New York City.

Over time, it morphed into something completely awesome.

I’ll be honest…there are some Facebook posts that I simply skim through, but every single post by Humans of New York is one that I enjoy.

When he photographs people, he chats with them and often shares the conversations.

I love them.

I’m such a people-watcher, in general, and Brandon caters to that part of me.

He also has a web-page, which you can find here, so if you aren’t on Facebook, you can check it out there.

Enjoy!

August 2, 2013

Five Question Friday Goes to the Movies

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1. Where in the theater do you like to sit when you’re at the movies?

I like to sit in the center in the center. (You understand that?)

Close enough to have the screen look huge, but far enough away so I’m not straining my neck to look up.

Right in the middle so I don’t have to look to one side or the other.

Real Man and I go to the movies at a mall in a nearby town that has stadium seating.

Perfection.

2. What characteristics does the ideal movie companion have?

The ideal movie companion must:

Like popcorn and soda during a movie, so I don’t feel like a pig when I get mine.

Not chew loudly or crinkle the bag when it’s a quiet scene.

Absolutely must not lift the bag up and pour the last kernels in their mouth.

Not act like a movie I am enjoying is terrible.

Realize that I am going to want to see every movie that they preview before the main event.

Have napkins or tissues prepared for my tears…both during previews and the show.

3. What memory do you have of things not going quite as usual at the movies?

Remember the movie “Contact” with Jodie Foster and Matthew McConaughy?

So, Real Man and I went to see that film.

We got all the way through to where Jodie is back from her visit with the aliens and they are telling her it was a dream and then one of the government officials says, “Well, there was something very interesting on the recorder that was in the ship.”

Suddenly, the film (those of you who are only old enough to see digital films will have no idea what I’m talking about, here) burned and dissolved on the screen.

Everyone is like “NO!!!!” and they assure us they will get it back up in a second.

After ten minutes, the lights dim and the movie starts back up, just as one of the other government officials says “Well, that IS interesting.”

Lovely.

Another time, we went to see “Heart of Darkness.”

In the first fifteen minutes, this movie also burned on the screen.

They got it back, but the soundtrack didn’t match the film for the rest of the movie.

People were so angry, they were yelling and throwing popcorn at the screen.

I don’t remember exactly, but I think they gave us all free passes to come back another night.

4. What are your feelings about commercials and movie previews playing before the film you’re there to see?

Commercials, no, thank you.

I just spent a bajillion dollars on my tickets and food, so please don’t try to sell me something else.

Previews, absolutely.

I will sometimes watch the movie preview channel on tv because I love them so much.

It’s nice to think about what movies you want to see in the future.

A great preview is almost better than a great movie.

Okay, maybe that’s stretching it.

But I’m totally in for the previews.

5. Who is an actor or director whose involvement in a film is enough to make you want to see it?

The first person is Joseph Kosinski – director.

Joe is married to a childhood friend of mine.

I danced at his wedding and just think he and his wife are just some amazing, down to earth people.

So far, Joe has directed “Tron: Legacy” and “Oblivion.”

Clearly, I’m not just going to his movies because I know him.

He does great work.

The next person is Jennifer Garner.

She doesn’t necessarily make the best movies (read: “Elektra”), but she does make some cute ones (read: “13 Going on 30”) and I have loved her since “Alias.”

There’s just something about her.

I think I might add Matt Damon onto this list.

I’m sitting here thinking of movies I love and he’s been in quite a few.

Oh, and speaking of, Justin Timberlake.

Sorry, but I can’t help myself.

Is there anything that guy doesn’t do well?

I’ve also seen everything Reese Witherspoon has made.

I think that has more to do with the fact that people are always telling me that I look like her than the fact that she makes great movies.

It’s like imagining myself on the screen, which is something I do frequently since it was always a dream of mine.

I would also watch anything that involves JJ Abrams and Joss Whedon.

They’ve made some of my favorite television shows and they have made amazing transitions to the big screen.

I want to say Mark Wahlberg, because, seriously.  Mark Wahlberg.

But, some, I just can’t get into.

Maybe I could just watch them on mute.

I think that might be my “Must-see” list.

Until I read this tomorrow and think of five more.

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