My Real Life

Yesterday, one of the amazing women bloggers who is a co-contributer to the anthology I am part of, posted this Valentine’s Day post on her blog, Funny is Family.

I loved it, and decided to share it with you today, along with some of my reasons for why Real Man continues to be my Valentine after  almost 15 years of marriage, 19 years of dating, and 25 years of knowing each other.

1.  He puts up with my overactive DVR schedule.  He even watches many of my shows with me.  And, some shows, like The New Girl, he doesn’t watch with me.  Even when he’s laughing at the jokes.  He’s not watching.  Even when he puts down his tablet and moves his eyes to the screen, he’s not watching.

2.  He is willing to drive to the Quik Chek to pick me up one of the ridiculous milkshakes they have there at 9:30 on a school night.  And I’m not pregnant.  Just wishing for a milkshake.

3.  He never gets tired of reading the same books, singing the same songs, going through the same bedtime routines every single night with the monkeys.  Never.  I’ve heard him say “Stand up.  Zip up.  Night-night world.  Shut the door.  Turn out the light.  I love you so much.  You’re a good boy,” more times than I can even begin to count.  And he never says “Seriously?  Again?”

4.  He eats everything I cook with a smile.  Which is nice, considering the monkeys don’t.  But, Real Man…he eats it, makes appreciative noises and pretends I’m Giada Laurentis.  (I choose to believe that he’s only pretending I cook like her…not pretending that I look like her.)  The only time he has ever not eaten what I’ve made was in our first year of marriage when I made pork chops and applesauce in the crockpot, like my Mom used to make.  Except, it wasn’t anything like when my Mom made it and I threw it all in the garbage before he could be sweet and eat it anyway.

5.  He loves me.  Like, he seriously loves me.  He doesn’t care that I don’t look the way I did when we met at 16.  He doesn’t care that I fall asleep in the middle of movies I made him rent. He doesn’t care that I start reading a book and become completely unable to complete any other task around the house until I finish the book.  He just loves me.

Good stuff.

I’ve been waiting to share some news with all of you, but I wanted to wait until I got the official okay.

I got it yesterday, and so I am thrilled to tell you that I’ve written a piece to be included in an anthology that will be released around Mother’s Day.

It’s an anthology of funny essays on motherhood, and I am beyond thrilled to be included.

There are 35+ hysterical women writers who are featured in the book, and they are all amazing bloggers.

As I am getting to know them, I definitely don’t feel worthy to be included in their company, but I’m working on it.

I’ve been starting to share some links to their blogs on my Facebook page, and I am going to be featuring some of my favorite posts here, on the blog.

Another exciting change, that has been prompted by the book, is the fact that I will be changing over to a self-hosting blog in the next few weeks.

I’m making the change for several reasons, like wanting some more freedom over format, style, font, layout.

It will also allow me to have ads on the blog and will allow me to become an Amazon affiliate, so around Mother’s Day, be looking for the link to buy the book.

Self-promotion.  Gotta do it.

These are exciting times at My Real Life, and I hope you all come on the journey with me!

Recently, I’ve found myself in a situation where I am getting to know, and thoroughly enjoy, some amazingly funny women bloggers.

They are effortlessly funny, and, as a woman and as a mother, I find that I can relate to most of what they write.

Yesterday was a long day.

We had a delayed opening for school, which was a nice treat, and then when we got there, we hit the ground running listening to presentations in all of my classes, then to play rehearsal, then to the post office, to the pharmacy, then home to cook Baby’s birthday dinner, then the party, the presents, the cake, and then as a birthday treat, he wanted to watch an episode of Dr. Who before bedtime.

I finally sat down around 9 pm to get online and click around for a bit.

I came across this post on “Bad Parenting Moments” and I laughed and laughed and laughed.

Someone said to me, just this morning, “You cook four different birthday dinners in a two week span?  Why not just let the kids pick a restaurant and take them out?”

My response was “I would rather swallow a hot coal than take the kids out to dinner four times in a two week span.”

And then I shared the story of Tiny and me in church about a month ago.

We lasted for ten minutes.

Why?

Because he sat on my lap and screamed “Help!” from our pew for that exact amount of time, and then I finally called it quits.

The rest of the monkeys are fairly well-behaved in restaurants, but Tiny is in a screaming stage that we never experienced with the other three, and along with the screams goes the tossing of everything on the table on the floor.

So, again, when I read the post, I laughed until my sides hurt.

Because I can relate.

And, if you have kids, I bet you can, too.

When I was a kid, my sister-from-another-mister, Gail, and I used to play outside all day long.

Seriously, all day long.

Sometimes, we’d even forget to eat.

If there was snow on the ground, we’d play until we were completely frozen…chunks of snow in our hair, no feeling in our extremities, noses running, clothes soaked through.

We had to be told to come inside.

Always.

My kids?

Not so much.

They are itching from the first flake to go outside and play in the snow, but for some reason, the “idea” of playing in the snow seems to be more tantalizing than actually playing in the snow.

My kids are more work when they are playing outside than when they are playing inside.

My doorbell is constantly ringing, and when I answer it, I am met with:

“My glove disconnected from my sleeve and snow touched my skin!”

“He threw snow in my face!”

Or, the one that instantly sends me over the edge:

“We’re bored out here!”

I think of the forts and the snowmen and the sledding and the hours and hours and hours that Gail and I entertained ourselves in the snow, and it boggles my mind that my kids need so much guidance to play in the snow.

Inside, they are remarkably creative with their play and they can play in the basement for hours, building, creating, imagining.

What is it about the snow that makes them forget how to play?

I wonder if it might be because we don’t have snow like we did when I was a kid.

Maybe because it only really snows once a season now, they don’t really know what to do with it.

Stupid global warming.

Maybe they’re just snow lazy.

I don’t know…all I know is that Monkey in the Middle and Baby Monkey have been at the front door three times since I started writing this post and I finally told them that I didn’t want to hear from them for at least fifteen minutes.

They aren’t wearing watches.

Fifteen, Fifty…it’s all the same, right?

The country mouse.

The city mouse.

No wires came down, thank goodness!

Half of the snowblower blades broke partway through the blow-out.

After I wrote the above post, the monkeys proved me wrong by playing restaurant on the back deck for an hour.

The twenty-somethings who rent the house across the street are definitely NOT “snow lazy.”  We think they are on their way to the world’s largest snowman.

…until someone tries to eat Baby Monkey.

1. What holiday do you wish did not exist?

Um…Columbus Day?

I’m not sure I even really get this question.

Everyone needs a reason to celebrate sometimes.

Oh…got one…St. Patrick’s Day.

Not to get on a soapbox, here, but it appears to me, that In the U.S., St. Patrick’s Day is celebrated solely as an excuse for people to start getting drunk as soon as they get up in the morning, and I really can’t get on board with that.

It’s turned into a dangerous, stupid holiday.

Of course, that’s just my opinion, and millions of drunk wanna-be-Irish would argue with me, but that’s okay.

I’m used to being on the opposite side of most arguments.

2. What is your favorite romance/love movie?

Love Actually is definitely up at the top of the list.

I love The Holiday, which I think I’ve mentioned a few hundred times before.

I love the story of The Notebook, as it’s a story of enduring and lifelong love.

I love the story of The Bridges of Madison County.

The scene at the end where she is in the truck with her husband and they see Robert’s truck in the intersection and he hangs the thing from his rearview mirror and she stays in the car, but is crying.

Good stuff.

You’ve Got Mail and A Walk to Remember always get me.

I can’t believe I’m admitting to this, but The English Patient was a pretty good love story, as well.

Then, not a movie, but a television show, Scandal is an insane show full of Washington intrigue and a very passionate love story about two people who cannot be together.

The episode named The Trail is the best example of love at first sight that just can’t be shaken that I’ve ever seen.  (It’s on ABC.com)
3. Do you make a big production out of celebrating Valentine’s Day?

No.

Every day is Valentine’s Day around here.

Kidding.

We don’t, really.

The kids do it up at school and that seems to take care of it.

Real Man and I exchange cards and I get the monkeys a card and a little treat, but that’s pretty much it.

I was kidding when I said every day was Valentine’s Day around here, however, there is some truth to it.

We constantly tell the monkeys (and each other) how much we love each other, and there’s more than enough hugs and kisses to go around on a daily basis.

4. What is something weird you did as a child? (or even now!)

Everything I did as a kid was weird.

I’m still fairly weird as an adult.

I asked Real Man this question and he said that the way I take medicine is weird.

I take a mouthful of my drink, then I drop in the pills, shake my head around and swallow.

If I put the pills in my mouth first, they get stuck on my tongue.

Ick.

The monkeys think it’s weird that I sing everything to them.

I don’t realize I’m doing it, but when I think about it…they’re right.

I can’t sleep in bare feet.  I must have socks on, or else I honestly cannot fall asleep.

And, if I’m sleeping and a sock falls off, I’m up.
5. What makes you love your husband, really LOVE him, you know since Valentines is coming up?

He makes me laugh.

Really laugh.

And he does so effortlessly.

When I really need it, when we are just sitting around being silly…on an every day basis, Real Man makes me laugh.

Out loud.

Also, he’s an amazing father.

You fall in love with your husband all over again when he becomes a father.

Real Man has  a way with all of our kids, and is a naturally good father.

He’s always there…steady…consistent…trustworthy.

I can count on Real Man.  Always.

Finally, I still get excited when I know I am going to see him, as he still takes my breath away.

Monkey Girl had a field trip on Wednesday.

She was going to the county library with her Quest class, and she was presenting a resort that her group had created in a small business competition.

She was CEO of her group and so she had her morning all planned.

She’d get up early, take her shower, I would do her hair, she’d practice her presentation, go through the slides one more time, as well as the business proposal.

She was prepared.

Wednesday morning rolls around, and I was in the middle of a lovely dream when I hear a furious, albeit sleepy, voice roaring “What the heck is going on around here???  It’s 6:50!!!”

We normally leave the house at 7:00.

She has an alarm clock, but Real Man sets our clock early for when he gets up and runs, and then I get up and go wake her up and we all move through our morning routine.

Except for the one and only time Real Man forgot to set the alarm.

Which was Tuesday night.

You’ve never seen two people jump out of bed so fast, and let me tell you, if there was a speed-braiding contest, I would have taken home the gold.

There were no showers, there was no practicing of the presentation.

What there was, was the fastest dressing you’ve ever seen, followed by the fastest baby change in history, the quickest making of sandwiches and packing of lunchboxes, the speediest toasting of waffles that were swallowed almost whole in the car, a drop off at daycare so fast that Tiny barely had time to realize what was happening, and a Mom and a girl getting to school, amazingly, at their normal time.

We walked in, took a minute and regained our composure.

I explained to Monkey Girl that some days you are the windshield, and some days you are the bug.

But, even when you are the bug, you can choose to get out of the way of the wipers before you get smeared across the glass.

Because you can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can certainly control how you deal with what you are given.