My Real Life

January 7, 2010

Don’t Wanna

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Monkey Girl is a Girl Scout.

A Brownie, to be exact.

She loves being a Brownie.  She loves everything about it.

In her old school, she had Brownies once a month.  In her new school, they haven’t actually met yet, as it is run a little differently, but tomorrow is their first meeting to kick off the cookie sale.

She is just beside herself with excitement.

She has her Brownie vest, but all of the badges aren’t quite on.

See, the badges are iron-on. 

Irons and I are not friends.

Irons and I don’t like each other very much.

I think you could go so far as to say that irons are my enemies.

I tried to iron-on some of her badges in the early years, but they never stuck, they fell off, and it was a huge pain in my patootie.

So, I started sewing them on.

I love to sew.

I do not love to sew Brownie badges, because they aren’t made to be sewn.  They are thick material with some sort of plastic-y backing stuff that needles do not pass easily through.

So, over the last two years, the badges have just kind of…piled up.

Tomorrow’s meeting is not after school.  It is in the evening at a local pizza place.

I figured we were home free with the whole vest-wearing thing.

Then the e-mail came.

“Let’s have the girls wear their vests and brown pants to school tomorrow!”

Well, we don’t have brown pants, and the vest isn’t quite up-to-date.

I’ve got a looooong night ahead of me.

It’ll be worth it when I see the smile on her face in the morning, but for now, I say again…

I’ve got a looooong night ahead of me.

January 6, 2010

The Talk

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So, the boys were in bed, and Monkey Girl was reading her book. 

Real Man and I were chatting about our day and Monkey Girl puts down her book and says:

“Is Santa really the parents?”

Real Man and I freeze and look at each other with deer-in-the-headlights eyes.

Me: “Well, what do you think?”

Monkey Girl: “Well, I want to believe, but Jamie said that she doesn’t believe in Santa and Nick said that he came downstairs on Christmas Eve and found his parents wrapping gifts under the tree, and in the morning the gifts they were wrapping were the gifts from Santa.”

Me:  “Oh.”

Monkey Girl:  “So, is Santa really the parents?”

Me: “Well, what do you believe?”  (I’m quick, right?  Same response to the same question…not a giveaway at all.)

Monkey Girl:  “Well, I kinda believe in Santa.  I want to believe in Santa.  But, I kinda think it might be the parents.”

Me:  “Oh.”  (Again, so impressive with the responses.)

Monkey Girl:  “So…is Santa the parents?”

Real Man and I looked at each other and realized that she knows.  She doesn’t want to know, but she knows. 

At this point, it becomes an issue of lying to a child who already knows the truth.

Me: (with tears in my eyes) “Yes…Santa is the parents.”

The tears began and Real Man and I snuggled her up between us on our bed and held her and stroked her hair and talked to her for about thirty minutes.

We talked about the magic of Christmas and the spirit of Christmas. 

We talked about how important it is to not ruin the magic of Santa for her brothers or her cousins or her friends.  She swore that she wouldn’t, and we 100% believe her.  A kinder child with a bigger heart you have never met.

She asked where her American Girl doll came from that Santa dropped off at my parents house.  I looked at her and raised my eyebrows and she said, “Ah…Gramma and Grampa.”  Then she smiled.

My heart broke tonight. 

It will break two more times over the next five or six years.

I hold onto the fact that if there is ever a child who embodies the spirit of Christmas, it is Monkey Girl.  Santa or no, this is a child who will continue to believe in magic and will continue to live in a world of wonder.  She will continue to make Santa alive for her little brothers because that is just who she is.  And I think that is what makes me the saddest.  I want him to be real for her.  I want that guy to barge through my front door right now and say “What the heck?  What are you doing telling this girl that I’m not real?  Pinch me!  I’m here!”

But, that’s not going to happen, and she was going to find out eventually.  Better that she finds out in the loving arms of her parents than on the playground.

And, I have to say, the truth of that conviction was brought home by the end of the conversation. 

We talked and talked and talked and at the end of it all, she said to us,

“Thank you for not lying to me.”

She’s asleep now and fell asleep happy and secure in the love of her parents.

Me?

I may cry myself to sleep tonight.

January 5, 2010

Real Long Day

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All is quiet and calm at my house right now.

It feels good because it was one heck of a long day.

I started out with an hour and a half drive, with a colleague, to Trenton.

We had day one of a two day session for math teachers and supervisors on the new New Jersey Algebra I end of course exam.

Sounds thrilling to you non-math geeks, I know.

Me…loved it.

Well, loved part of it. 

The other part was…well, it was what most workshops and seminars are.

A teeny, tiny bit boring.

However, we were given some great information that I can bring back and share with my math teachers.  So, it was a good use of the day.

And…I didn’t have to talk, because I was being talked “to,” which was helpful considering the fact that I have laryngitis and feel like horse pucky.  That’s right…I said horse pucky.

So, from 9-3, I was getting my Algebra on.  (I know, I know…I attempted the street slang again…perhaps I should just learn that things like Algebra and street slang don’t go hand in hand…I’ll try to stop, although it may not be the last you’ll hear a little street slang on this blog.)

We drove home, and faced much less traffic, so we were back by 4.  I picked up Baby Monkey and headed home to where Monkey Girl and Monkey in the Middle were busy doing their homework with my Dad.

The rest of the day is an example of why I don’t run around in the morning like a chicken with my head cut off, and is just a little bit of how we organize ourselves in a home with three kids and two parents that work full-time.  Although, really, it would work beautifully in any home!

While the kids finished up their homework at the kitchen table, I emptied their lunchboxes and made and packed their lunches for tomorrow.  They are currently in the fridge, and in the morning, I just pull them out and pop them in backpacks.  I also made my lunch and Real Man’s lunch, which will also just be pulled out and ready to go in the morning.

I checked all of the homework, had the kids put it back in their folders, and put their folders back in their backpacks.  I then went through all of the gajillion papers that had come home in their folders, and oohed and aahed over artwork and tests and classwork.

The kids went to play and I started dinner.  While dinner was cooking, I went to the basement and switched the monkey boys laundry from the washer (where I put it this morning) into the dryer.  Then, I headed back to the kitchen to keep an eye on dinner and to go through the mail.

I never make dinner alone.

Every single night I have a little companion who perches on one of the counter chairs, plays with things that are not toys, like empty Pez dispensers, and regales me with tales of his day.

Although I am not a fan of cooking, it is one of my favorite parts of the day.

When Real Man gets home, we eat, and after dinner Monkey Girl clears the table and sweeps under the table while Real Man helps the boys start getting ready for bed.  I use this time to get dinner for the next day moving along.   Tonight, I set out the crockpot with two cans of cream of mushroom soup on the counter, and put the porkchops in the fridge to defrost.  In the morning, all I have to do is pop the pork chops in the crock, open the cans of soup and toss them in, turn it on and viola!  Dinner will be ready when we get home.  (Okay, I’ll still have to make the rice and beans, but seriously…that’s nothing.)  I start the dishwasher and Monkey Girl goes up and gets ready for bed.  We all pick out clothes for the monkeys for the morning and set it out where they can find it.

Once everyone is in jammies, there is some more playing, and one by one monkeys are read to, sung to, and put to bed.

It’s 7:53 pm as I type this and the monkey boys are sleeping soundly…well, Monkey in the Middle is sleeping soundly.  Baby Monkey is quietly singing to himself.  Monkey Girl is next to me on the bed finishing up her 20 minutes of reading for the night.  Although, I know how it will go.  20 minutes will be up and she’ll beg for 10 more minutes…not to stay up, but because she love, love, loves to read.

Then, she’ll go to bed and Real Man and I will sit and chat about our days, watch some tv and just be together.  I can rest soundly because I know that everything is set for tomorrow and that it won’t be a mad dash out the door.

Every night doesn’t go this smoothly. 

There are certainly nights with bumps in the road or unforseen happenings.

But, for the most part, this is the routine, and it helps us all live a less stressful life, despite our busy schedules, and definitely lets us make the most of our time together as a family.

What are your routines?  How do you stay organized?  Any tips or tricks you could share?

2010 Bloggies Are Here!

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As you, my faithful readers know, I am working tirelessly to attract more people to our little home here, on the web.

Along those lines, I’d be thrilled if any of you would be willing to nominate me for “Best New Blog” at http://2010.bloggies.com/

You have to nominate a total of three blogs (can be across categories…don’t need to be from the same category), so I’d invite you to check out the blogs in my blogroll to choose two more blogs to nominate. 

If I might make a suggestion, I’d love for you to vote for one of my bestest girlfriends, Michaela, for “Best Kept-Secret” blog.  Her website is on my blogroll, but just as a reminder, it is http://www.briefcasetobackpack.com  I love all the blogs on my blogroll, but I gotta shout out for my girl who I’ve known since I was 7.  Counts for something, right?

If you vote for me, thanks so much!

If you don’t, that’s just fine, as well.  I just hope you keep coming back, because I love writing for you!

January 4, 2010

Back to Reality

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Today I woke up.

I hopped in the shower.

I got dressed in dress clothes for work and pulled out lunchboxes from the fridge and popped them in backpacks.

I got monkeys dressed.

I left for work at 7:00 am.

Monday after a break is such a slap in the face.

Doesn’t matter how much you love your job.

If you’ve just had eleven days off, that first day back is just a tough one.

So, you do your job, and you do it well.

But in your head, you are thinking warm, cozy thoughts…

Thoughts like not getting up to the sound of an alarm, but instead to the sound of kids trying to be quiet while they play, but being too giggly to actually be quiet.

Thoughts like having time for a nice, hot breakfast of oatmeal instead of a Fiber One english muffin that is only lukewarm because you had to pop it out of the toaster early because you needed to leave.

Thoughts of spending the whole day in your jammies or sweats.

Tomorrow, my mind will be completely, 100% back at work.

Today? 

Gotta admit…

My mind was here…

And the Winner Is…

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Comment #6 by Kathy D!

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I used the random number generator at Random.org to find our winner, and Kathy is it! (I entered numbers 1-15, as one entrant posted their comment on the wrong page)

Kathy, I’ll be e-mailing you for your address!

Thanks to everyone who participated!  Look for another giveaway soon!

January 3, 2010

It’s My Party

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First of all, a little business… Don’t forget to enter my giveaway contest!  Contest ends tonight!  Then, come right back and read the rest of the blog!

Today is my birthday.  I must say that 38 feels pretty good so far. 

Almost 40, but the truth is, most of the time, I don’t feel a bit older than…mmm…I’d say 28. 

And most days, I don’t act any older than 8.

I think that’s a good thing.

So, last night we went to my parents house for my annual birthday dinner.

Every year, my Mom makes me spaghetti with meat sauce for my birthday.

At school, one of our Italian teachers gives an award every marking period called “That’sa One Spicy Meatball” for a kid who is just on and is an overall great kid.  Every year when she gives out that award, I think of my Mom’s meatballs, because let me tell you…SPICY.  We usually start sweating as we eat her sauce, and if you have a sinus infection going in, you won’t have one going out.

It is delicious!

The monkeys make me laugh because they are all so different, but because we have three, they cover all of the different perspectives on any given topic. 

For example, my Mom’s spaghetti dinner.

Baby Monkey just wants the spaghetti.  No sauce.  Just the pasta.

Monkey in the Middle wants just a meatball.  No pasta, no sauce.  Just meatballs.

And Monkey Girl…yep…you guessed it.  She likes it all.

The kids love going to my parents house because:

1)It’s warm.  We keep our house between 58-61, closer to 58 most of the time.  My parents house is cozy and warm, and they have a gas fireplace that throws off some excellent heat.

2)They have cool, interesting toys, like this wooden Noah’s Ark.  The lid comes off and it’s filled with wooden animals that the monkeys parade around and they pull the ark around and it’s pretty cute.  My parents also have my Dad’s old Lego set, which isn’t called Lego, it’s called “Brick City.”  I used to play with it at my grandparents house in Ohio, when I was little and I loved it so much better than regular Lego’s because the set has some clear bricks.  I don’t know why, but I thought those were awesome!

I think my favorite part of the evening was when my Dad started telling the story of when he and Monkey Girl were at Barnes and Noble and his cell phone started going off. 

Now, my Dad is definitely not a digital native.  He’s a full-blown digital immigrant, and so although he has made great strides with regards to his use of technology, sometimes it gets the better of him.

Anyway, he and Monkey Girl were at Barnes and Noble and they were looking at the Harry Potter wand display.  His cell phone starts going off.  He has no idea what it was, so he figured it was one of the wand boxes.  He picks up the box and puts it next to his ear and starts shaking it.  Then, he picks up the next box, and the next.  Monkey Girl suggests that perhaps it was his cell.  He pulls it out, and by the time he does, the person (me) had hung up.

Monkey Girl loves this story.  She laughs so hard, she cannot breathe.  I cherish those laughs.  They are the best laughs in the world.

Be still my heart.

For dessert, we had Breyers mint chocolate chip cookies and Pepperidge Farms snickerdoodle cookies.  Since desserts are not the friend of a diabetic, I chose something that I could have a little of, but that were favorites of the monkeys.  The monkeys ate the Snickerdoodles faster than you could blink, and they finished up their ice cream, as well.

Oh, and they couldn’t find the candles, so we had matches for candles.  No wish, because I was afraid the house would burn down if I didn’t blow those matches out quickly!

The best part of the night was just spending time with the family.  My father-in-law always comes to celebrate, and it is just a great evening.  So, enjoy these last shots of happy people and happy times.

January 2, 2010

First Giveaway of 2010

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So, today is our first giveaway of the New Year!

Todays giveaway is geared to helped families stay organized in the new year, but everyone should feel free to enter, because you can always give the prizes as a gift to someone!

To enter, please leave a comment telling me one goal you have for yourself in the New Year. 

That’s it!  So simple!

Contest ends at 10 pm EST Sunday, January 3rd.  Contest winner to be randomly selected and announced Monday morning, January 4th.

The prize package is:

1) Family Activity Calendar: Use this handy wipe-off perpetual wall calendar to keep track of your family’s busy days.  Just choose the month, write in the dates, and mark special events with the reusable stickers.  Includes – 12 pre-printed month banners, more than 100 reusable stickers, a wipe-off pen, 4 magnet strips for hanging, wipe-off to-do list.

2) Tasty School Lunches cookbook.

3) Birthday Cakes for Kids cookbook.

4) Plastic coaster that you can slide a picture inside to personalize.

So, just leave your comment with one of your goals for 2010 in the comments section and this prize package could be yours!

If you don’t…

Grumpy village people safari monkey may have to pay you a visit.

January 1, 2010

Real Goals

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2009 was a great year.  Truly a great year.  A lot of wonderful things happened last year, and life was good.

That being said, it’s time to look into 2010 and start planning how I want to live my life in the new year. 

Yes, that’s right…I’m going for the typical New Year’s Day blog and am going to share with you my goals for 2010.  I figure, if I share them with all of you, I have all of you to help keep me accountable.  Hard to slack when you’ve just told the world what you plan on doing.

I’ve divded the goals into categories.  I also am adding pages to the blog to track the progress of some of these goals.

Money and Home Goals

I will not be purchasing any new books in 2010, for myself.  I received four books and a $50 gift card to Barnes and Noble for Christmas and I have a shelf of unread books in our office. 

This is my “unread book shelf.”

I also have a very well-used library card.  I have a Dad and friends who are also voracious readers and would be happy to let me borrow their books when they finish.  There is no reason for me to buy a book for myself in 2010.  Aside from the fact that I love books.  I would love to swim in a sea of books.  (The paper cuts would be pretty horrific, though.)  So, I am pledging to not buy myself a book in 2010.  I am also adding an embedded page on the “What I’m Reading” page of this blog.  The list will be a list of all of the books I read in 2010.  They may not all be good books, but it’s what I’ll be reading throughout the year.

I am very well-organized and purge our “stuff” pretty regularly.  However, there are five of us in this house and I still feel a little overrun by “stuff” every now and then.  2010 is going to be the year of the super purge.  I will pretend that we are moving at the end of the year, and am going to look at everything with the critical eye of “Am I willing to pack this up, move it, unpack it, and find a new place for it in a new home?”  I think this will help me move through some things that I haven’t been quite able to get rid of yet.  As I said, there isn’t much, as I’m not a particularly sentimental girl, but I’m sure there is some stuff that is hanging around that could go.

Along those lines, I’m adding a page to the blog to keep a tally of everything I’ve given away/sold during 2010.  Sometimes I’ll be specific…for example,last week I freecycled a toaster and a tea kettle.  If it was this week, I’d have written “toaster” and “tea kettle” on my list.  However, if I do a purge of the playroom and we donate a bag full of toys, I’ll just write “bag of toys” instead of listing each, individual toy, which could be much more impressive to look at on the list, but really…who wants to know every single toy we gave away?

At the Frugal Village, someone started a $25 a week per person grocery challenge for 2010.  I’m participating in this, as well.  Basically, the premise is that you wouldn’t spend more than $25 per person on groceries each week.  For a family of 5, such as we are, this would be $125 a week.  That feels excessive to me, so I’m going to shoot for $20 per person, per week to start the year.  I used to feed a family of 4 for $250 a month.  We’re now a family of 5, but that doesn’t mean we need to double the amount.  So, I’m aiming for $20 per person, per week, which, in a month of four weeks is $400.  

As an FYI, I don’t just count food in my grocery total.  I include everything I buy at the grocery store, including paper products, health and beauty aids, diapers/Pull-Ups, etc.

Right now, we have a pretty full pantry and fridge/freezer.  I did our first shop of January and we’re in good shape.  I’m committed to using everything we have before buying anything new.  As of this morning, here’s the pantry and fridge/freezer:

Once Baby Monkey gets his little patootie potty trained, I’m hoping to lower it to $15, and maybe by year end, $10 per person.  I am a pretty darn good shopper when I want to be.  Heck, I’ve had articles published about saving money at the grocery store!  This should be a no-brainer for me.  So, this is a small financial goal that I’ll be working toward in 2010, as well.  I’ve added a Grocery Goal page to the blog for like-minded people who would like to follow our progress on this goal.

Going Green Goal

At the Hip Mountain Mama blog, she started a challenge that begins January 1 and runs through Earth Day.  The challenge is for your family to pick one thing to change each month toward the goal of going green.  Then, we write about it on our blogs and on the first of the next month, we say how we did and what our change for the next month is. 

I love this idea, and am adding a page to the blog to track our family’s progress along with this goal.  We’re starting by not using paper towels.  You can read about it on the Going Green page.

Personal/Creative Goals

I’d love to create more.  Whether it is writing (my first love) or sewing or knitting or any other type of creative outlet I can find.  I think, along these lines, I will set a goal of creating new thing a month.  Now, with regards to writing, if I find myself working on a long story, I don’t have to write the whole thing in a month, because, let’s be honest, I’ve got a full-time job, a part-time job, and three kids.  However, perhaps a chapter a month, or something along those lines.  I would include any freelance articles that I write in this goal.  (I’ve been looking for some freelance work…I’ll keep you in the loop.)

I also need to start sending out queries, en masse, for my novel.  It has waited long enough.  I’ve done all the e-mail queries…the time is now to start sending the snail mail queries.  (I’m surprised that more companies take snail mail queries than those who take e-mail queries.)  I’m not going to set a numbered goal for this one…I’m just committed to getting on the ball with it.

I’d also like to “market” this blog a bit better.  I’ve decided that I am not going to migrate to my own site until I get a regular readership of 100 people.  I love all of you who read me regularly, but I’m not making the move until I know I’ve got the numbers to sustain the move.  There are a variety of ways to market a blog, and I’m researching and beginning to actively move toward all of them.  You, of course, could help by recommending the blog to any friends you have that you think are like-minded and may enjoy the ridiculousity that is my life on a daily basis.

Finally, I am also committed to doing more for others in 2010.

This goal isn’t one that I will necessarily broadcast, however, because it feels kinda weird to come on here and say, “Hey everyone…look at what I’m doing for others!”  It sorta takes away the whole kindness for the sake of kindness feeling of the goal.  So, you may not read about this goal on the blog, but be assured that I am doing this. 

One thing I am definitely interested in doing this year is the Diabetes Walk in the fall.  As a diabetic, yes, this does something for me, but believe me, there are a lot of people much worse of with this disease than I, and my hope is to raise money to help those people.  That is a “doing something for others” part of the goal that I will discuss, because hey…I’ll need to raise money. 🙂

I’d love for you, my faithful readers, to quietly amp up your doing for others, as well.  Kinda of like a “kindness pay it forward.”  What a wonderful way to start the year!

So, what about you?  Any goals that you’d like to share with us?

If so, I’d love to read about them in the comments section!

Happy New Year!

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