My Real Life

April 8, 2015

Strange Days, Indeed

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I’m a fan of horror movies.

A big fan.

My quest, each year, is to find the scariest movie of the year.

I love to get goosebumps and be so scared I feel the need to hide my eyes or grab on to Real Man’s arm or let out a shriek.

I love being scared.

I always have loved being scared, and I’ve also always loved scaring others.

When I was a kid, my friends and I would sit in my closet with a Oujia board and try to scare the bejesus out of each other.

I watched Poltergeist again and again and again, despite the fact that every time I watched, it further solidified my eternal fear of clowns and dolls.

In college, one night, after watching “It,” my roommate, DeeDee, snuck into the bathroom, where I was showering (in the large communal shower…don’t ask…it was not the best way to make freshman feel comfortable), turned off the lights, and started throwing things at me in the dark, ala the “It” shower scene.

I was terrified, but still, had a good laugh, because I enjoy being terrified.

Cuz I’m weird like that.


There have been other things that have happened that are more real, which makes them even stranger, in my life.

When I was 13, I was sound asleep in my bed, one night.

I wasn’t in the throes of a nightmare or anything like that, but I woke up, sat straight up in bed and began to sob like my heart was broken.

I honestly had never cried like that and couldn’t get control of myself.

About 30 seconds later, the phone rang.

It was my Grandfather calling from Ohio to tell us that my Grandmother, my best friend, my favorite person in the world, had passed away.

Every now and then, I’ll catch a whiff of my other Grandmother’s perfume in the air.

Except, I’m usually home when it happens and there’s no perfume in my house.


So, I have a history with the strange and I’ve enjoyed it thoroughly.

Going back to movies, the things that have always scared me the most are the things that could really happen (dolls coming to life and scary clowns aside) and things that build up with a slow burn and leave you in suspense.

Gore isn’t scary to me.

It’s just gross.

But, build up that tension, or show me a scenario that could actually happen?

I’m in.

The original “Halloween?”

Suspenseful like crazy.

“The Strangers?”

There are crazy people out there, folks, and I believe that there are some who would absolutely do those things.

“The Ring?”

Would never happen, but the slow movements, the camera shots, the slow burn as you are figuring it all out, and that girl making her slow, jerky way out of that tv?

Probably the scariest thing I’ve ever seen.


However, this post isn’t about scary movies.

It’s about scary life.

Or, at least, strange life.

Real Man and I moved into our current house in the summer of 2011.

The monkeys were 10, 7, 5, and brand spanking new, and we were thrilled with our new space.

I’ve written before about the phantom cat that would rub up against our legs while we would be standing at the sink or at the changing table, whose scent we could sniff out in the air, every now and then.


Over the years, on my blog’s Facebook page, I’ve written about how Tiny has mentioned seeing people in his room that weren’t there, but those incidents were few and far between, and although they gave us the heebie-jeebies, they were quickly forgotten.

Until recently.


A few weeks ago, as we were getting ready for work and getting the kids ready for school, Real Man pulled me aside and said, “So, something really weird happened last night.”

“What?  Did I not steal the covers and you didn’t know what to do with all that warmth?” I replied.

“Ha, ha…no,” he said.  “I woke up in the middle of the night because I could hear water running.  I went down the hall, and the faucet in the bathroom was on, full blast.”

“Maybe one of the kids got up?” I asked, hopefully, because a few nights before, Baby Monkey had gotten up to wash his hands in the night (who does that?) but, apparently, this night, it wasn’t him.

“No.  I went into their rooms to check and they were all completely out.”


A few nights later, I was in the kitchen with Tiny, making dinner.

We were doing our usual dinner-making dance party thing, and having a great time, when Tiny suddenly stopped.

“Mama, who is that man?”

I stopped dancing.

“What man?”

Tiny pointed to the laundry room, which was empty, and said “That man.”

I walked slowly to the laundry room and peered out the window, thinking maybe he saw a neighbor in their backyard, but there was no one outside.

Or inside.

“Baby, there is no one here.”

Tiny pointed again and said, “Yes he IS!  He’s right there!”

I jumped out of the laundry room, back into the kitchen, and said “I’m sorry, sweetie, I have no idea who he is.”

Tiny kept looking, gave a sweet smile and then said, “Okay, he’s going now.”

I closed the laundry room door and finished preparing dinner faster than I have ever cooked in my life, and all through the meal, sat feeling the hairs on the back of my neck up, because my chair has it’s back to the laundry room door.

The faucet could have been explained by a child getting up.

The man in the laundry room could have been explained by the active imagination of a four year old.

I could have forgotten it all.

Except, a few mornings later, Real Man was getting ready for work, and I was still in bed, sleeping, as I wasn’t working that day.

The kids were all downstairs, eating breakfast, and we were the only people upstairs.

We have all hardwood floors and no carpets, and the floors on the second floor creak and groan mercilessly when anyone, even Tiny walks on them.

There is no sneaking up on anyone in our house.

Well, if you are a human, that is.

So, our bedroom door was closed, and Real Man was bending over, putting on his shoes, and suddenly, a lone, unpopped popcorn kernel rolled under the door and across the room.

He immediately flung open the door, but, surprise, there was no one there.

He went downstairs and they were all still eating their breakfast in the kitchen.

Nothing amiss in their little worlds.


So, what does this mean?

I don’t know.

What I do know is that it’s freaky, but it’s okay.

My whole life has been full of these strange occurrences, and I’m fine with it.

None of it ever hurt me or anyone I loved, so I’m good with whatever is going on.

Maybe it’s all coincidence, and that’s fine, too.

But, I’m happy letting my imagination run wild and envisioning all the things that it could be.

Until it happens again.

March 31, 2015


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It’s been awhile since I’ve written, and I’m disappointed in myself, because I was doing great in 2015.

And then we hit the end of February and time just flew away from me.

But, to be honest, I was busy with some pretty amazing things.

And, those amazing things all involved her.

To begin with, Monkey Girl and I were selected to participate in Morristown’s Got Talent, a local talent competition.

Calling it that makes it sound small.

It’s not.

It was pretty huge, and more importantly, it was so much fun to experience it with Monkey Girl.

And here is our act: (sorry it’s so fuzzy)

We didn’t win the competition, but I have to be honest…

My daughter asked me to perform with her and we had a blast.

It was an experience we will share forever.

Oh, and we did with the selfie contest.

Then, the culmination of months of hard work followed two weeks later, as Monkey Girl performed in our school’s production of Beauty and the Beast.

She was Belle and she was amazing.

There is no video to go along with this, but here is one of her pieces in the show.

My girl.

But, here’s why I’m titling this particular post “Her.”

These two things were incredibly time consuming.

Incredibly nerve-wracking.

And yet…

Monkey Girl did it all.

On her own.

I didn’t run lines with her.

I didn’t practice her songs with her.

I didn’t monitor that she was getting her homework done.

And yet…

She memorized it all.

She rocked it all.

She ended the marking period with A’s and A+’s in difficult classes with a lot of coursework.

By herself.

And I couldn’t be prouder.

February 23, 2015

Little Church

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I’ve had this post rolling around in my head for quite awhile, but I haven’t been sure how I wanted to approach it.

Originally, my post was going to be called “Why I Love Church,” but a conversation with Matt, my colleague and office-mate, reminded me that I actually don’t love church, and that I have huge issues with organized religion, in general, and that …

You get the point.

So, Matt said, all that being true, there is something, though…something there that you do want to write about, so you need to get to the bottom of it.

I started sharing with him what I was thinking, and by the time I was done, he said, “I don’t think you want to write a post saying ‘Why I Love Church,’ but instead, want to write a post about that particular little church you’ve fallen in love with.

And he’s right.


I’ve spoken, several times, about the fact that my Dad is a Presbyterian minister.

He retired many years ago, and now does supply pastoring for ministers who are ill or on vacation.

This position takes him far and wide on Sunday mornings, and on occasion, he has asked me to come with him.

And preach.

This always makes those who know me well giggle a little, because I am not quiet about my issues with “the church” and my questions about faith.

So, the idea of me, up there, always takes people back.

But, let’s face it.  I grew up in church.

I probably spent more hours in church in my childhood than some people spend there in their entire adult lives.

There are two places where I am completely comfortable, outside of my home, and those places are schools and Presbyterian churches.

I’m also a pretty good public speaker.

So, my Dad uses my strengths and combines them with his, and we deliver some pretty good sermons, where he deals with the theology, and I share stories and anecdotes that illustrate the point.

A few weeks ago, for two weeks in a row, we worked at a little church, about 15 minutes away from my house, but tucked in, where I never would have known it existed.

It’s probably the smallest church I’ve ever been in.

It would fit inside the auxiliary chapel that is next to the main sanctuary at my church.

And I loved it, instantly.

It’s an old church, and I love old churches.

This one was established in 1758.

I have a friend who works at a church in Georgia and it’s modern and technical and I don’t know…to me, something gets lost in the modernity.

Real Man and the kids go to a local Catholic church and it’s all sharp edges and modern decorating and it just doesn’t work for me.

There’s something about the simplicity of an old church that rings true, to me.

“Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade” (which I like to call “Indiana Jones and his Dad”), is, by far, the best of the Indiana Jones trilogy.

Yes, I realize there was a fourth, but seriously?  “The Kingdom of the Crystal Skull” doesn’t really count.

I digress.

My favorite scene is when Indy finally makes it back into the room with the ancient knight and he has to choose the cup that is the Holy Grail.

When he sees it, he knows it instantly, for a simple, wooden carpenters cup.

A movie, yes, but that’s how I feel about church.

If Jesus came back to life today (we’re not talking end of days, here…just talking like I do when I say, “I wonder what George Washington would think of this if he came back”) I don’t think he’d be impressed with the massive, modern structures full of statues and nonsense.

The cathedrals of Europe?


But, I think, son of God or not, he was the kind of person who would be completely at home in the simplest of surroundings.

I am a 100% believer that there is beauty in simplicity.

So, we go in, and we are greeted by the man that opens the church in the morning.

He and my Dad chat, while I organize my papers.

By the time the service started, there were about 30 people in the congregation, which pretty much filled the pews.

It was a normal church service, but there were pieces that just made me fall in love.

At one point in the service, a woman stood up and walked to the front and asked people to share their joys and concerns.

People randomly called out things that they, or people they knew, were struggling with, or good things that had happened in their lives.

A woman sat, near the windows, and wrote down what people shared, and that is what, I assume, was the list that showed up in the bulletin, each week.

After the scripture readings, but before the sermon, the bulletin called for the “Chancel Choir” to sing the anthem.

Six people got out of their pews, went to the front, stood and sang a lovely song.

They wore no robes, didn’t sit in a loft, were backed by a piano, and it was beautiful.

While we preached, I was able to make eye contact with most of the congregation, and I could see them listening…really listening.

Children got up to explain that they would be collecting for the Souper Bowl of Caring, which would donate the proceeds to a veteran’s organization, and I know now, that they were able to raise over $300 that morning.

When the service ended, people talked to each other in the aisles and talked about bringing meals to the people who were sick, and asked how they could help the others who were in need.

They laughed and shared and caught up with each other, and slowly moved toward the back of the church.

They shook my hand and thanked me for coming and were gracious and sweet and welcoming.

The next week was similar, as we went back, again, with a different sermon, and this week, the church was packed, as it was Scouting Sunday, and the Cub Scouts, Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, Brownies, and Daisies all participated in the service.

That day, my Dad and I joined the congregation for the coffee hour, next door, and again, there were conversations and connections and community.

My Dad went back, again, last weekend, and I did not.

My gig with Dad was over, and I spent my Sunday morning at ShopRite with Tiny.

But, I gotta tell you… I missed it.

I missed being at that church, with those people.

Even not knowing a soul, it felt…good.

Don’t get me wrong.

I still love my church.

The church in which I grew up will always be home.

But there is just something about this place.

In the tiny narthex, there is a painting on the wall of the church, at Christmastime, and it just encapsulates how the place, and the people, makes me feel.



On my last Sunday with them, they came up to me and said, “Surely this won’t be your last Sunday with us.  You’ll come back again, right?”

And despite the fact that I don’t go to any church, pretty much at all, anymore, unless I’m preaching or one of the kids is doing something special there, I have a feeling that, yes, I’ll be back for a visit.

February 16, 2015

The Power of Music

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I’ve been thinking, a lot, lately about the power of music.

Music has the power to take you to another time, another place…with just a few notes drifting at you, through the air.

You hear those opening notes and you remember where you were, when it was, what was happening.

You see a picture in your mind, smell a phantom scent, and your body starts to move.

You laugh.

You cry.

You think, “What if?”

Couples don’t have “a book,” “a food,” “a piece of silverware.”

Couples have a song.

Real Man and I have a song.

Well, technically, we have two songs.

Our wedding song is “Crazy Love.”

We were sitting in the movie theater, seeing “When a Man Loves a Woman” and Andy Garcia was driving across a bridge, and the song began to play and we just looked at each other and we knew.

This was our song.

However, we have another song.

We danced to it at the Junior Prom and over the past 26 years, whenever we have heard the song, we look at each other and remember.

But songs aren’t all about romance.

Songs are happy memories.

The opening strains of The Romantics (Hmmm…they seem to be recurring players in my life) “Talking in Your Sleep” bring me to Judy’s basement where we are dancing, singing, and trying on her big sister’s awesome shoes.  I am happy, and life is good.

When I hear Alicia Bridges, “I Love the Nightlife,” which, admittedly, doesn’t happen to often, I am with Erin.  I am 8.  We are dancing in my bedroom to my 45.  I am happy, and life is good.

Howard Jones, “No One is to Blame” and I am 14 and I am with Michaela.  We are at her house.  We are at the beach.  We are playing with hair and makeup.  We are on a boat.  I am happy, and life is good.

When I hear those first notes of “Oh What a Night,” I am 18 and I am driving in the car…to anywhere, really…with Kim.  The windows are down, we are singing at the top of our lungs.  We are talking about boys and college.  We are laughing.  I am happy, and life is good.


I was in the grocery store the other day, and I was singing along with “Party Lights” and an older gentlemen came up to me and said, “How on Earth do you know all the words to this song?  This is a song from MY youth, not yours!”

I smiled and said “My Dad.”

So, any song from the 50’s or 60’s and I’m in a car with my Dad and he’s turning up the volume as loud as it will go, yelling over the music “Amy…listen to this bass line!” or “Amy…can you believe the brass section on this one?”  He’s educating me, and although I doubt he had any idea what he was doing, he was setting basis for how I would feel about music for the rest of my life.

That it was to be played loud, to be really dissected, to be thoroughly and utterly enjoyed.


Not all musical memories are happy ones.

We all have them.

I love Journey…always have, always will.

But, when I hear “Faithfully,” I’m taken back to my college boyfriend, and a relationship that started with such promise and turned sad and sour and felt more like a prison than a relationship, toward the end.


One of my favorite things that I have taught, over the past 18 years, was a “Music with Meaning” unit in an 8th grade Social Studies enrichment class.

The students and I would discuss how music used to be the best way for people to communicate what they felt was wrong in society.  How, in a time when the media could be bought and it wasn’t proper to talk about certain things in certain circles, artists took to their music to make sure that the world knew exactly what was happening.

Music was a way of letting everyone know about social injustice.

I opened up by asking if anyone had ever heard of Reuben “Hurricane” Carter.

Very few had.

Those who had said, “Oh, yeah…he was a boxer who killed some people.”

So, I would cue up some Bob Dylan and let them hear the whole story.

I’d ask if, after hearing the whole story, that they thought the media was reporting all of the facts.  If they thought, in a world torn by segregation, racism, and hate, that people were really understanding what had been going on, and if they understood how music was the way to get the story out there.

We listened to “Revolution” by the Beatles and “For What It’s Worth” by Buffalo Springfield.

We listened and talked and then I asked them to find music, in their own lives, that told a story, that meant something, whether to the world or to them, personally.

And I had 100% participation.

Because music is a universal language.

Even if you don’t consider yourself “a music person,” there’s that one song…those few notes…that take you there.

So, what’s your song?

What song makes you remember?

What notes make you feel?

February 13, 2015

Five Question Friday

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I haven’t done a Five Question Friday in awhile, so I thought, maybe, I’d give it a try today.

1. What is your favorite color?

So, it’s not particularly popular, but my favorite color is brown.

Probably because I love fall, and the different shades of brown and orange that come on the trees, as they turn, but whatever the reason, I’m a fan of brown.

I prefer unpainted and stained wood over painted wood, and will go for earth tones over pastels or bright colors any day.

I tried to dye my hair brown in high school, but it didn’t take.

So, my favorite color?


2. If you could switch places with someone else for a day, who would that person be?

That’s a tough one.

My life is far from easy, but I’m not sure there is anyone I’d rather be.

Well, Jimmy Fallon.

Maybe I’d like to be Jimmy Fallon for a day, because I don’t think there is anyone in the world who enjoys their job more than he does.

I think that would be a good choice for just one day.

Or, maybe Kate Middleton.

Because I’m pretty sure she doesn’t have to cook or do laundry.

And she lives in a castle.

3. What is your very first memory?

I don’t know if it’s a real memory or something I made up over the years, but, the first memory that I think I have is from when I was 3 years old and we lived in upstate New York.

We had an exchange student, from Yugoslavia, who was staying with us, and I remember being in my bedroom, making a ton of noise, and Martina coming in and telling me I was driving her up the wall.

I got on my toy car and immediately began to pretend to drive it up the wall.

I thought it was hysterical.

She was not as amused.

After that, my next memory is accidentally punching my Dad in the nose on our porch in the house we lived in, once we moved to New Jersey.

He was holding me, and I was pretending to punch him, or something, and followed through and gave him a bloody nose.

He was not happy.

The one after that was when I cut all my hair off.

It was so long, I could sit on it, and I was watching Sesame Street, and they were making a nest for Big Bird.

I thought that made sense, so I looked at my long, yellow hair, that easily resembled straw, and got some scissors, and cut it off, above my ear, on one side of my head, only.

Immediately, I heard my mother coming downstairs to do laundry, realized what I had done and ran to hide.

I hid under the ironing board, because that is so concealing.

I was caught and oh, was I in trouble.

I was saved, only, because my Grandma was visiting from Ohio and she was a hairdresser.

So, my earliest memories…not my best moments.

4. If you had three wishes, what would they be? (And you can’t wish for more wishes. 

My first wish would be that my children would live long, happy, healthy lives, full of love and joy and laughter.

I just want my kids to be healthy and happy.

My second wish would be for the financial freedom to pursue our dreams, whatever “financial freedom” might mean for our family.

I don’t necessarily know what that would look like for us, but it’s definitely a dream for me.

Financial freedom would allow me to write, allow us to travel, allow us to do many things that we haven’t been able to do, thus far.

My third wish?

That’s tough.

I’d like to wish something for someone else, but I don’t really know who, or what, to wish for.

World peace?

Is it responsible to wish for something global without really understanding what the effect would be on the planet?

I don’t know.

So, I’d just hold on to that third wish, and really think about it.

And, if I know me, I’d wind up wasting it on a whim, in a moment of weakness, yelling something like, “I wish that for just one night I could make a dinner that no one would complain about!”

And that would be that.

5. Have you ever wanted a pony for your birthday? If not, what has been the craziest thing you’ve ever wanted for a birthday/other celebration present?

Funny question.

No, I’ve never wanted a pony for my birthday, but that’s only because I thought I was getting a pony for Christmas, one year.

I was an only child, and I was a sneaky, sneaky squirrel around the holidays.

Although I was able to locate, unwrap, and rewrap my presents by the time I was a teenager, when I was a little kid, I wasn’t quite as sneaky as I thought I was.

So, when I snuck downstairs to eavesdrop on my parents, one December evening, they staged a conversation.

“Do you think she knows?” my Mom stage-whispered.

“No, I don’t think she has a clue!” my Dad replied.

“How are you feeding it?” my Mom asked.

“I cut a hole in the basement ceiling and I push the hay up through the hole.”

“It’s such a good pony…it never nickers or makes any noise!”

Now, you should know that there was a large box in my living room, next to the tree.

In my 8 year old mind, that box was big enough for a pony, and so, I spent the remaining weeks, prior to Christmas, fully believing I was getting a pony.

I was a smart kid, but it just never dawned on me that it would be nearly impossible to keep a pony in a cardboard box for that long, never mind the smell that should have been emanating from the living room.

I was getting a pony.

That’s all that mattered.

Until Christmas morning when it turned out that I was actually getting a stereo for my bedroom.

Not a pony.

So, no…I never wished for a pony again.

February 9, 2015

Good Boy

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Tiny had to have surgery on Friday.

Minor surgery to remove his adenoids and have tubes put in his ears, but surgery, nonetheless.

He was ignorantly excited about the whole process, wondering if he would get a sticker afterward (he did).


In the recovery room, he smiled at everyone, but he was very, very quiet.

Over and over again, the doctors and nurses and staff kept saying “He’s such a good boy!’  “He’s so well-behaved!”  “What an awesome kid!”


And he is…they are correct.

But, I couldn’t help but wonder…what if he was in his element?

What if he wasn’t a little nervous, and so still and silent?

Would they not have considered him “a good boy?”

What if his mouth was moving a million miles a minute, like it usually does?

What if he was moving around, always in motion, as if powered like a battery, like on a normal day?

Would they have not said he was “so well-behaved?”

What do we value in children?



I’m not saying that this kid is perfect.

He’s spent time in the office at daycare, and is currently getting stickers for when he is actually able to be still and quiet for a few minutes before moving to the quiet room at nap time.

So far, he’s earned one.

But, does this mean he’s not a “good kid?”

Or does it mean he’s a three year old monkey who is learning how to behave.

Who is learning the power of words and that “No! I don’t like that!” shouted at the top of his lungs can often getting a larger reaction than a quiet, “No, thank you.”

Some of my favorite students from the past 21 years of being an educator were the ones who challenged me most

Who were always critically thinking, problem solving, debating, wondering, dreaming, speaking, moving, and shaking.

So, what makes “a good boy?”

And is that what I want for my own boy?

February 6, 2015

Birthday Month

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February is birthday month around here.

By the time March 2015 fights it’s way through the snow to arrive, I’ll have 14, 11, 9, and 4 year old children.

I’ll have a 14 year old girl who is ready for high school and all that awaits her.

Who is loving and kind and funny and brilliant, and is the person I want to be when I grow up.

I’ll have an 11 year old boy who is moving on to middle school.

Who is busy and curious and wanting to be involved in it all, despite the fact that it all gives him a world of worry.

I’ll have a 9 year old boy who is quiet and shy and funny and unique and could solve all of the world’s problems with construction paper and tape.

Who is patient and often misunderstood, but awesome in ways that most people can only dream of.

And I’ll have a 4 year old boy who is headstrong and hilarious.

Who is the apple of his sibling’s eye, and is the joy we didn’t know we needed until he arrived.

February comes and goes in a blur.

There are birthday parties and family dinners and presents and snow days and deadlines and performances and every other thing under the sun.

It’s easy, in this house, to view these birthdays as “something else I have to do.”

Something to check off the list.

Something to get through.

So, despite the fact that, in all aspects of our lives, February is the busiest month of the year, I want to make a concerted effort, on these four days, to stop.

To be grateful for the four people who call me Mama and who keep me young (and make me oh so old).

To celebrate.

To remember.

Because, someday, these days might be celebrated with a card in the mail and a phone call across the country or over the sea.

Happy Birthday, my babies.

Mommy loves you.




February 2, 2015

Mamma Mia!

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Since I was a kid, there are very few things in life that move me as much as seeing a Broadway show.

Even a show that isn’t fantastic just (to quote Monkey Girl) gives me the feels.

We live about 45 minutes west of NYC, and even still, I haven’t been to that many shows, which is a real shame, but they are incredibly cost prohibitive, and as an adult, I have four children and that’s time prohibitive.

I saw a lot of shows when I was younger and my parents were paying.

I’ve seen Phantom three times.

I’ve seen Les Miserables six.

I’ve seen Annie twice, once in the 80’s and once a few years ago, thanks to a generous invite from one of Monkey Girl’s friends.

My parents took me to see Cats, as a kid, and they both fell asleep until some of those Jellicle cats came out and perched on the edge of my Dad’s seat and scared the bejesus out of him.

Real Man and I saw Smokey Joe’s cafe with my parents, sat front row center, and my incredibly introverted Real Man inadvertently became part of the show, complete with a boa.

I saw Movin’ Out with Erin, which was INCREDIBLE.

And, a few years ago, I saw Mamma Mia with Erin, Kim, and Michaela…all born in the 70’s…all girls who know their Abba.

So, for an early birthday gift for Monkey Girl, Real Man and I bought tickets (through Broadway’s awesome 2-for-1 deal) to see Mamma Mia.

She really wanted to see Wicked, but guess what show sold out first?

Mamma Mia was her second choice, but she was thrilled and grateful and overwhelmed, because that’s the kinda kid she is.

So, she and I headed in on the train and the fun began.


I should mention that it was cold and the ground was covered in snow on the day we went in, so we were all bundled up.

Well, I was all bundled up.

Monkey Girl decided that she would wear capri jeans with flats.

Because “that’s all she had.”

I offered to loan her some of my boots and shoes, but they were too small, and by the time we were leaving, she said there were no other options and that her winter boots were ugly and she wasn’t wearing them.

I didn’t agree, but that was a battle I wasn’t going to fight.

As the parent of a teenager, sometimes the only way they will realize you are always right is to let them experience being wrong.

Even if it’s a very uncomfortable wrong.


On the train, we talked and she filmed the first piece of her Vlog assignment for her french class.

One take and she was done.

Or not…

Our plan was simple.

We’d head into Penn Station and walk to John’s Pizzeria…one of my favorite places to eat in the city.

I had called ahead and they had told me that we didn’t need reservations for a party under 15 people and had assured me that during the time in which we were arriving, we would have no trouble getting a table.

So, we arrived and…no tables and a one hour wait.

That would put us late for the show, so we decided to try Carmine’s, down the street.

And, as you can imagine…they weren’t accepting people without reservations.

So, we decided to hit the Hard Rock.

Monkey Girl was not excited, as she had her heart set on pasta, but time was ticking away and we were starving, so she agreed to give it a try, because I was not taking my girl to McDonald’s on her big night.

They gave us a wait time of 30 minutes, and we figured we could make that work.

We walked around and looked at the memorabilia and chatted.

I made her take a picture of me next to Adam Levine’s guitar and picture because…Adam Levine.


She was a little apprehensive while looking at the menu, so I decided that this would be the perfect time to introduce her to some haute cuisine.

Potato skins.

If it wasn’t so loud in there, the noises coming from our table as we devoured those potato skins could possibly have gotten us thrown out, but her education in the world of appetizers was a success, and she was on board.

With each song that came on, I fascinated (bored) her with tales of the artists.

Like the time I chatted with Joan Jett on a plane on the way to San Antonio to see my friend, Mark.

Okay…maybe chatted is a bit of an exaggeration.

We head nodded to each other as I moved past her in first class.

I like to think it was as memorable for her as it was for me.

I took this shot of her next to the Black Sabbath guitar because it was right at our table, and she wasn’t too keen on posing with Billy Joel’s motorcycle.

Which is crazy.


It’s a great shot of my girl.

But, upon closer inspection, we found that it’s an even greater shot of the woman behind her, who did not appear to enjoy the fact that she was being immortalized in our family photos forever.


We found it interesting that they followed up Joan Jett with “Let it Go” and then moved to Marilyn Manson, but applauded the fact that they were engaging a larger audience, and couldn’t help but notice the fact that at least one person at each table sang along with “Let it Go,” while a far smaller audience mouthed the words to most of the other selections.

A little girl of about 7 actually stood up and sang, standing next to her table and sang the whole thing…arm motions and all.

Gotta love that enthusiasm.

Our waiter, who was being shadowed by a trainee, asked us what show we were seeing, and then told his trainee to leave.

She was confused, but she left, and he then proceeded to lower his voice and tell us how he and Bradley Cooper are BFF’s.

Well, they WERE BFF’s, but they haven’t seen each other in years, but he was going to see him in The Elephant Man and was going to surprise him backstage.

Well, maybe not backstage because it’s a surprise and Brad won’t know he’s coming and may not give him permission, so maybe he’d surprise him outside the theater after the show.

But, they definitely are BFF’s.

I don’t know about you, but I smell a stalker.

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Then…the show.

Genetics run strong in that girl, because, although she looks exactly like her father, her emotions come from her Mama.

I have never been to a Broadway show where I haven’t cried my way through the overture at the sheer excitement of being there.

I turned to her, halfway through the overture and saw the matching tears on her cheeks.


Amazing show, once again, and after it was over, on the way to the train, we talked about which of our friends would be which characters, if the show was about our lives, our Broadway dreams, and, most importantly…she finally admitted she was, maybe, a little cold.

But only a little.

On the train ride home, she got a crash course in drunk people on a train, which, incidentally, would be an excellent Twitter hashtag, and she made a time-lapse video of the sights outside our window.

We got home and she thanked Real Man and I profusely for a wonderful experience, and I think we both had a hard time falling asleep for the wonder of it all.



Imagine being lucky enough to have your job be to sing your heart out in front of an audience night after night after night.


Imagine being lucky enough to be able to spend some quality time with your daughter in the midst of deadlines and due dates and paperwork and four children and life.

Even better.

January 26, 2015

Then and Now

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 6:00 am

As the blog gets more followers, I’ve been going back and reading some of my older posts.

I find it fascinating, at times, to see where I was then with where I am today.

Yet, in many areas, it’s interesting to see that as much as things change, they also stay the same.

So, I thought it might be fun to do a Then and Now post for you, where I take an old post and update it with how I would have written it, were I writing it today.

To begin the process, I’m taking you back to September 2009, where I decided to answer 20 questions for you, the readers.

In 2009, I was a 37 year old mother of a 7 year old girl, a 4 year old boy, and a 2 year old boy.

Tiny wasn’t even a twinkle in my eye.

Scratch that…Tiny was the furthest thing from a twinkle in my eye because I was feeling overwhelmed with just three kids.

I was the Instructional Leader for Math and Science at my middle school, and was teaching piano lessons after school.

I had been blogging for a month, and not too many people had read anything I had ever written.

Today, I’m a 43 year old mother of a 13 year old girl, and 10, 8, and 3 year old boys.

Most days, Tiny is the one who actually puts the twinkle in my eye.

I’m the Supervisor in charge of Language Arts, Social Studies, and Technology in my middle school, and am still teaching piano after school and on the weekends.

I’ve been blogging for six years, have been published in an anthology, on the Huffington Post, was a semi-finalist in Amazon’s Breakthrough Novel of the Year contest, and write for my author’s group as often as we can meet.

It’s been a good six years.

So, click back to that old post and then let’s take a look at some of these questions and see what else has changed:

1.  Show us the inside of something cute.

I didn’t get this question in 2009 and I don’t get it today.

The inside of something cute?

So, ruin the cute thing by cutting it open?

Yeah, no, I don’t think so.

2.  What’s the last home cooking you had?

As I write this, the last home cooking I had was the taco dinner that I made for the family last night.

I make dinner pretty much every night, for the family, so this one hasn’t really changed too much.

3.  What do you miss?

What do I miss?

These girls:


So much.

It’s been too long, and I can’t wait to get together and just hang out with my girls, again.

4.  What makes you laugh often?


He’s ridiculous.

He’s trying out new words all the time and sometimes he uses them correctly, and sometimes he doesn’t.

He’s been enjoying the snow and it’s a blast to watch him slide down the hill and then carry his little board back up.

He gets to the top and yells, “Again!” and flops down and slides right back down again.

He sneezes and yells “Boogers!” and expects me to run after him with a tissue, and if you don’t get there fast enough, then he just uses his sleeve.

Or the sleeve of the person nearest to him.

Tiny is a 3 year old with more personality that you can imagine and he makes me laugh every single day.

5.  What’s your favorite word?


Kind is all I want my kids to be, and I find myself looking for kindness everywhere.

When I see my kids being kind to each other, I point it out, celebrate it, and reward it.

I try to model it, but know that, often, I fall short.


We all could use a little more of it in our lives.

6.  What are you trying to quit?

Biting the inside of my mouth.

Since I was a kid, it’s been what I do.

There are probably a million photos of me with my mouth contorted mid-face bite.

I always figured it was just a bad habit like nail biting, etc, but recently, I’ve noticed the stakes are a little higher on this one.

I’m getting some weird wrinkles around my mouth that seem to fit, exactly, the shape I make when I’m biting the inside of my mouth.  So, I gotta quit.

7.  What’s your favorite commercial, right now?

Ooh, those Matthew McConaughay Lincoln commercials!

No, no…I kid.

I’m actually really enjoying the Rob Lowe commercials for Direct TV.

These may be regional…I’m not sure, but I think they are creative and funny.

Not hilarious…more cheesy and “Oh, Rob Lowe, how far you’ve fallen,” but I look forward to seeing a new one when it comes out.

Check this one out.

8.  Whose style do you dig?

I still dig Jennifer Garner’s style, but these days, I am loving Kristen Bell.

And Dax Shepard.

There really isn’t anything I don’t like about these two.

I saw them interviewed on a show where they were discussing paparazzi laying off of the children of celebrities and thought they made their case so eloquently and clearly.

I loved their commercials over the holidays.

I believe I’ve shared my Veronica Mars love before, so I don’t need to go there.

I just like them as people, as a couple, as parents, as celebrities, and so I feel pretty confident in my answer that I dig their style.

9.  Link to a great blog you’ve discovered recently.

I haven’t discovered it recently, but one of my favorite blogs is Bad Parenting Moments, written by my friend and co-author, Bethany.

She is often funny, but more often, she is honest and frank, and she writes about things that others are too afraid to write about, and makes me say “Yes…exactly,” every time.

Please check her out.

I know you won’t regret it.

10.  What’s the last craft you made?


That’s just hilarious.



Monkey Boy is the crafty guy around here and spends most of his time making things out of construction paper and tape, but his Mama isn’t the crafty type.

11.  A photo of the last “happy” mail you received.

The last piece of happy mail that came to our house is a letter accepting Monkey Girl into the STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) Academy at the high school.

It seems to be what she wants, so we are happy for her.

Right now, she wants to either be a veterinarian or an architect, and she feels this is the best way to get there.

Proud of her for going for it.

12.  Something you’ve got lately.

I didn’t really understand this question six years ago, and still don’t “get” it, today.

So, “this question” is not my answer.

13.  What are you looking forward to?

What am I looking forward to?

I’ll tell you what I’m looking forward to.

Morristown’s Got Talent.

Monkey Girl and I auditioned, back in December, and they whittled down the performers from 70 acts to 16, and we made the cut.

We are thrilled beyond belief, and completely nervous, and very, very excited.

We can’t wait for February 25!

14.  Post a recent snapshot of yourself.

Did you see the picture from 2009?

I had such long hair!

I still drove the minivan!

I loved that leather jacket!

Anyway…here I am, today, with Monkey Boy:


15.  Recent Favorite Movie?

Into the Woods

Hands down.

It was amazing.

I’ve mentioned this before, but I’ll mention it again.

The audience applauded when it was over.

I’m a sucker for a musical, and this was absolutely no exception.

16.  Something you’re working on right now?

My author’s group met last week and I shared a short fiction piece I had written.

They gave me excellent feedback and I’m working on revising it so that I can figure out what I want to do with it.

Maybe I’ll share it with you!

17.  If a movie were made about you, who would play you?

It’s still Reese Witherspoon.

Six years later, and I continue to get stopped in stores and told that I look like her.

The older I get, the less I see it, but I’ll take it, because I think she’s a cutie.


18.  What gives you goosebumps?


Monkey Girl and I saw “Mamma Mia” last night and it was amazing.

I’d seen it before, but it doesn’t matter how many times I see a show on Broadway (Les Mis…6 times) it gives me goosebumps.

Call it a dream unrealized, call it being unbelievably impressed with the talent, call it the wow factor, but Broadway gives me goosebumps and I realized, last night, that I don’t get there nearly enough.

19.  Share a new obsession.

My latest obsession is getting Monkey Girl to watch old shows with me.

She didn’t go for Gilmore Girls, so I almost had to disown her.

However, she seems to be hooked on the original Beverly Hills, 90210, so, we’re good.

Although, she has been watching an inordinate amount of Saved By the Bell, so I am a little concerned about her taste.

But only a little.

Because, Zach Morris.


20.  What’s the meaning of your life?

To positively influence other’s lives.

I just want to make sure that I don’t leave a negative impact on the world and that I leave the world a better place than I found it; whether physically, emotionally, or spiritually.

If this was everyone’s goal…oh, what a world it could be.

January 19, 2015

Pulling the Plug

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 6:00 am

One of my 15 Wishes for 2015 was to give up some of my television shows.

Doesn’t sound like a big deal, but I love television.

I love the escape.

I don’t actually start watching tv until 9 or 9:30 at night, so most of the things that I watch I’ve recorded and am watching as I fall asleep or while I’m folding laundry, but we upgraded to the super duper platinum ultimate dvr contract so I could record up to six shows at a time, and that, in and of itself, is a pretty good indication of how much I’ve been watching.

There are a lot of things I want to do in 2015, and I really don’t think I’ll be able to do them if I keep up with this television thing.  At one point, my friend, Matt, counted 52 shows that I was currently watching.

That number actually felt pathetic to write.

So, it’s time to pare down and carve out some time for the other things in life I enjoy.

Here’s what’s going:

American Horror Story – I think my relationship with AHS has come to an end.  Season 1 hooked me.  No one loved Season 2 Asylum more than me.  Then Season 3, Coven, showed up.  Eh.  So, I gave Season 4 a good, old-fashioned try.  But, when I realized that I had seven episodes DVR’d and I was willing to watch the shows my kids had recorded, without the kids, instead of AHS, I knew it was time to say goodbye.

Revenge – Oh, Emily Thorne.  Pretty much everyone knows your secret now.  Your father is back from the dead.  Your gorgeous fiance is dead.   Your gorgeous ex-husband is dead.   You aren’t getting together with Jack any time soon.  I think you’ve taken this story as far as it can you.  You got your revenge.  And, I think we’re done.

The Vampire Diaries – Yeah, yeah…it’s not a show for 43 year old middle school administrators.  I get it, I get it.  But, I’ve loved it since it started.  I don’t love it anymore.  How many times can someone switch places with their doppelganger, anyway?  People die on the show, but they are still hanging around.  The story just goes on and on and on.  Enough.

Parenthood – Okay.  This is cheating.  The series is ending.  However, the truth remains that once they broadcast that final episode, I’m not watching the show anymore.  So, technically…I’m cutting it out.  Go me.

Covert Affairs – It’s a USA show and I really enjoyed it, and then they finally put Annie and Augie together and I LOVED it.  And then they broke up and she went dark and it all just got weird.  Covert Affairs…I gotta quit you.

Grimm – I tried to love this show.  I never watched a full season, but I watched a lot of episodes of each season.  I tried, but I never loved it.  I’m not even sure why I kept watching it.  I mean, I know why I kept watching it…I love that kind of stuff, but this just didn’t deliver for me.  Besides, I’ve got enough supernatural stuff in my television arsenal.  This one can go and I won’t miss it at all.

Gotham – I know of one person who is probably disowning me at this very moment (if he actually reads the blog) but I just can’t do it.  I loved the first episode.  I liked the second.  I tolerated the third.  And that’s where I stopped and I haven’t felt like “Ooh…I need to catch up on Gotham” for even one second.  The premise is great.  How did all the villains in Gotham get to be villains, and how did little Bruce Wayne get to be big, tough, Batman Bruce Wayne?  It’s just too much Oswald Cobblepot, who was always the creepiest Batman villain, as the Penguin.  Danny DeVito did such a good job with that role in the movie that I am seriously creeped out by just the thought of the character.  And Donal Logue is just a big jerk.  I like him much better in Vikings, which is a show on the History channel that I am NOT going to let go.

Castle – It actually pains me to write this.  I love Castle.  I really do.  And I don’t feel like the show jumped the shark when Castle and Beckett got together.  I think they handled it beautifully.  I love the characters.  I love the writing.  I love the mysteries.  There really isn’t anything about the show that I don’t like.  But, I don’t watch anymore, and although I have a ton of episodes recorded, I don’t feel the need to watch them.  I’m sure when the kids are out of the house and I’m in my late 50’s, they’ll still be showing it in syndication somewhere, and I’ll just watch it then.

So, that’s what I’m walking away from.

However, there are some shows that I’ll never leave until they get cancelled (which they probably will, because most shows I like get cancelled) or come to a natural conclusion.

What are they?

Here’s a few:

Reign – Another CW show that is probably not for my demographic, but it has totally sucked me in.  Give me kings and queens, and you’ll have me at “your majesty.”  Make them attractive with love triangles, Nostradamus, and some mysteries and I’m a goner.

Outlander – I don’t even feel a little bad about this one because it has a short season, I read the book (three times) before watching the show, and it’s Scotland.  Scotland, people.  Time travel?  I’m in.  And, oh, there’s this:


Oh, Jamie Fraser.  Ní fheicfidh mé a stopadh breathnú ar do seó , which, if Google Translate is accurate means, “I’ll never quit watching your show.”

Game of Thrones – It’s on for, like, three months a year.  I refuse to feel guilty about this one.

Sherlock – Speaking of short series, Sherlock has 3 episodes a season, and it has a season every two years, or so.  Benedict Cumberbatch is so, so good. Martin Freeman is amazing.  I love to watch Sherlock think, and it’s highly entertaining.  Plus, it’s a BBC show, and lord knows I love those Brits.

New Girl – Is it the best show on television?  Not even close.  But it makes me laugh, and it’s utter and complete nonsense.  I feel like so much of my life is serious, serious, serious…sometimes it’s nice to just indulge in some idiocy.  And I like the characters.  Independently, they would probably annoy the heck outta me, but together, they work.  And they care about each other, in their own twisted way.

The Bachelor/The Bachelorette – I don’t want to hear it.  I love this show.  I also love how Real Man “doesn’t watch” with me.  Talk about mindless entertainment; this is it.  I’m surprised I love it because I get so upset because they never pick who I want them to pick.  There were a few seasons where I let my friend, Carolyn, tell me the ending, but I’m back to being surprised and letting the story unfold naturally.  Or, at least, as naturally as one person dating twenty other people at the same time and proposing to one of them in a matter of weeks can be.

There are some other shows in the lineup, but I’m feeling pretty serious about cutting back and spending more time doing the things that I keep saying I want to do.  I’ll never be one of those people who says, “I got rid of cable,” or, “I don’t have a tv,” because, to quote my Grandma, I gotta have my stories.

I love tv.

Not as much as I love the movies, of course, but that’s a post for another day.

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