I never watched Sex in the City when it was on.
It’s a show that I came to in reruns, and in the later seasons.
So, I never really got to see the beginning of the show, the genesis of certain relationships, or the evolution of the characters.
I simply knew them, as they were, in the end, and I enjoyed watching.
I saw both movies, and at the end of the second one, decided that the stories had definitely run their course.
Amazon Prime recently announced that it had the entire season available for streaming, and I was in need of a new treadmill show, so I decided to watch from the beginning.
And, as much as I liked it before, I like it even more, now.
I’m even obsessing, a bit.
Obviously, it’s not for the faint of heart, and is over the top with the adult content, but what I like about the show is the friendship.
Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha are friends.
And, while it bothers me immensely that they complain endlessly about not being able to find good men, and then when they do, these women are the ones who mess it up, at least they always have each other’s backs.
It reminds me, very much, of my friendship with Kim, Erin, and Michaela.
If we were all single and living in the city, that is.
However, even though we are all married, some of us with kids, some of us not, living hours away from each other, we’ve always got each other’s backs, and I think that is the heart of the show.
The relationships with the men are secondary.
But the relationship between the women takes center stage and I love it.
It’s a lot like why I love Buffy the Vampire slayer.
Yes, yes…I’m a fan of the supernatural, but it, too, is a show about friendship and that is the string that lasts through the entire show.
It even saves Willow’s mortal soul, at one point.
But, that’s an episode for another day.
I do, also, love that the women aren’t willing to settle.
They know what they want, and are willing to say goodbye to relationships that are “just okay” in order to find what they need, and what they deserve.
One of my favorite lines comes from the an episode in season two.
Carrie is leaving Mr. Big at his engagement party and she says (to us) “Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they need to run free until they find someone just as wild to run with.”
Love that line.
Not that I consider myself wild, but I understand the sentiment and, again, the idea that “it” is out there for everyone.
On another note, I will admit that the writer in me can’t help but love when Carrie whips out her laptop and starts typing her column.
I’d have loved to have been a columnist.
I used to write little newspaper columns all the time, when I was a kid.
So, it’s very satisfying to see her words appear across her screen as she writes, each episode.
People write the show off as shallow, as too much, and as nonsense.
I think there are some deep thoughts in there, and while I don’t think a lot of the behavior that is modeled would be anything I’d ever want my daughter to learn from, there are definitely lessons to be learned, and relationships to be observed and remembered.