My Real Life

February 28, 2011

Ch, ch, ch, ch, Changes

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 9:52 am

So, as you can imagine, the monkey house has undergone tremendous change in the past week.

On Wednesday, we brought home the newest monkey (blog name to come), and we all needed to adapt to a new routine.

Real Man and I needed to adapt to a new sleep schedule.

Luckily, the baby is a fantastic night sleeper.

There was one night where he was up every few hours, and I was sure he was confusing night and day and was anticipating months of being up all night, however, it was a one-night event.

Now, he goes down around 9:00 pm, wakes up around 2:30, goes back down after eating and doesn’t wake again until 5:30ish.  He eats again and sleeps until 9:00 am.  Then, he’s up for the day, eating and taking smaller naps throughout the day.

The other monkeys have been fantastic with him.

They love to hold him and kiss him and talk sweetly and gently to him.

Monkey in the Middle has taken to the new baby the most.

As soon as he walks in the door, he does his homework and has a snack in record time so that he can hold the baby.

He wants to be there during diaper changes, handing us supplies.

If I realize I’ve left the burp cloth in another room, I don’t even have to ask or don’t even need to begin to rise to get it myself, he’s on the case.

He’s so sweet and gentle and kind with the baby.

It’s so interesting to watch, as Monkey in the Middle, much like me, is quick with his temper, and low with his tolerance for frustration.

So, I was concerned that a baby that took up a lot of time and attention would be something he would struggle with.

And, in fact, it’s been just the opposite.

In his role as second oldest of four, Monkey in the Middle has thrived.

This new baby could possibly have been the best thing to happen to him.

Baby Monkey is enjoying his role as big brother, for the first time.

He still goes about his business as usual, but he waits his turn to hold the baby, as well, and loves to give him kisses.

He talks to the baby in a sweet, little voice, and tells him that everything will be alright.

Monkey Girl continues to be the perfect big sister.

She loves to help care for the boys, and is just enjoying the new dynamic in the family.

She keeps referencing how we are now a family of 6, and just how cool that is.

As for Real Man and I, well, let’s just say it happened again.

We’ve always thought that our family of 5 was just perfect the way it was.

We’ve always known that our kids were wonderful and special.

We’ve always realized that we loved them more than we thought anyone could ever love their kids.

Our hearts were completely full.

And yet…

…at 8:19 am, last Sunday morning, it happened.

Our hearts, which we were sure were completely full, expanded again.

And now, we are just as head over heels in love with our new baby as we have always been with our other three children.

Because, apparently, when you have more than one child, your heart doesn’t divide, and you give little pieces to each one.

It grows larger and you wind up giving your whole heart to each one.

All four of my children are remarkable and wonderful and just the right children for me.

And I love each of them with my whole heart.

More than I could ever imagine.

February 26, 2011

One Single Moment

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 11:30 am
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The moment that sums up this amazing week.

February 25, 2011

Five Question Friday!!!

Filed under: Five Question Friday — Amy @ 1:17 pm
1. Can you drive a stick shift?
I actually prefer it, however, they don’t make a lot of mini-vans in a stick.

2. What are two foods you just can’t eat?
Food allergies aside, I absolutely cannot eat liver or lamb.
When I was a kid, when my Dad would have to work late in the city, sometimes, my Mom’s best friend, Linda would come over.  I loved Linda, but dreaded those dinners, because it meant we were having liver and onions.  I told them EVERY SINGLE TIME it would make me throw up, but they made me try it every time, anyway.  And, every time, I puked.  Every single time.
Lamb just gives me the skivvies.
Maybe it’s because it is usually served with mint jelly.
Mint jelly?

3. Do you buy Girl Scout Cookies? What is your favorite kind?
As if I could possibly stop myself.
I think my favorites are (in this order):
1.  Tagalongs  (Peanut butter and chocolate…need I say more?)
2.  Thin Mints  (Perfection)
3.  Samoas (Such an excellent texture)

4. How do you pamper yourself?
I really don’t.
I should, but seriously, working full-time and being a full-time Mom, who has the time?
I don’t do manis or pedis, don’t get invited on “Girl’s Night Out” outings, can’t seen spending the money on a massage, etc.
I guess it would be my bi-annual outings to the city with Kim, Erin and Michaela.
Love those.
So much.

5. What is your nickname and how did you get it?
My nickname is dependent upon who you are speaking to.
My Dad used to call me Beth, Bethy or Bethel, because Beth is my middle name.
Kim, Erin and Michaela call me Amer, which is an obvious derivative of Amy.
My work friends seem to call me Boz, which is an obvious derivative of my married last name, and a nickname that Dh (as well as his sister and brothers) have worn their entire lives.
I don’t have a nickname like “Scoop” or “Funky Pants,” but, that’s okay.
I’m good with Amy or Mama. 🙂

February 23, 2011

Monkey Girl Turns 10!!!

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 9:40 am
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I guess it’s only appropriate that, in a week full of posts about the birth of my last baby, I talk to you about the birth of my first baby.

Because, 10 years ago, today, Monkey Girl was born.

And my life was forever changed.

For the better.

So very much for the better.

I’m going to refer you to my post about her birthday last year because it has the best pictures of her as a little one, and explains how I felt about her birth.

But, I’m also going to tell you that I consider myself a very lucky woman.

This oldest child of mine is just…remarkable.

Her capacity to love is unreal.

Her concern and care for others, over the course of her 10 years, has always been inspiring.

Kids are supposed to be ego-centric.  It’s the way they are wired.

Not Monkey Girl.

She’s funny, she’s intelligent, she’s creative.

She’s everything I wish I could be.

I love this girl so much, I can’t even stand it sometimes.

And, I hope she always, always knows it.

So, celebrate my beautiful, oldest child with me, today.

She’s worth every second of celebration you can give her.

February 21, 2011

About A Boy

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 9:58 pm

We’re Gonna Need a Naming Contest!!!

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 10:38 am

I am so proud to introduce our newest monkey! More info to come when I don’t have to type it on my phone! 🙂

We couldn’t be happier or more in love with this little guy!

February 18, 2011

Five Question Friday

Filed under: Five Question Friday — Amy @ 3:28 pm
Not the most interesting set of question this week, but it’s what they had for me!
1. Have you worn the same outfit more than one day in a row?
Yes, yes I have.  Not to work, but on weekends or over the summer, I certainly have.
And, I’m not ashamed to say it.

2. If you had to choose any LARGE city to live in, which would it be?
New York City.
I love that place.

3. Fly or drive with the kids on vacation?
Hard to pick, as I’ve never flown with the kids, anywhere. 

4. What is your idea of “spring cleaning”?
Opening the windows, vacuuming, dusting, sweeping, and just starting over.

5. What is the best book you have ever read?
Um, seriously?
Perhaps I haven’t been clear about exactly how many books I’ve read over the course of my life.
I have no idea.
I’ve loved many of them in their own way.
However, books that have stayed with me are The Thirteenth Tale, Mystic River, and The Pillars of the Earth.

February 17, 2011

Lost and Found

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 7:10 pm

Isn’t it funny how you can look for something in the same place a thousand times?

Then, you see someone else looking there and you get annoyed.

You say, “I TOLD you, I already looked there!” as if their looking there means that they don’t trust you to be able to see something that might be hiding there.

And, you get annoyed with them, even though you know you are going to look in that same place again, yourself.

Because it’s a logical place for whatever is lost to be?



The kids were making a fort in the basement tonight.

They pulled all of the cushions off of the couch in the basement and then pulled the cushions off of the couch in the living room.

They used them to make their fort.

My sister-in-law graciously offered to take Monkey in the Middle to basketball practice tonight, so while we were looking out the picture window for her to turn the corner, I looked down at the skeleton of the couch.

I’ve looked in there a million, bajillion times.

I saw, what I thought was this little green flashlight thing the kids like to play with.

I pulled it out.

It stuck a little, because it was wedged in there, pretty tightly.

When I got it out, I looked at what I had in my hands.

Monkey Girls DS Lite, that has been missing since, oh, I don’t know…maybe as long as last summer?

I couldn’t believe it.

Seriously, couldn’t believe it.

We have all looked in that couch more times that we can imagine.

When I’m just sitting there, reading, I just put my hand down between the cushions, just in case.

Never found it.

And yet, today, there it was.

What a sigh of relief to find it.

And how annoying that it’s taken us this long to see something that has been there all the time.

February 15, 2011

Monkey in the Middle – Birthday Boy!

Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 9:48 am

As if Friday wasn’t hard enough, with my baby turning 5, today, my big boy turns 7.

Let’s just remember what this 7 year old looked like yesterday:

It WAS just yesterday, right?

Because, it sure feels that way.

And now?

He’s Mean Joe Green in his football stance.

Time goes so quickly.

And I realize how ridiculously cliche it is to say that, but I honestly don’t know where the time went.


Does that mean he’ll be 8 on this day next year?

Too much.

It’s all too much!

Anyway, I love this boy and am so happy to celebrate with him today and every day!

February 14, 2011


Filed under: Uncategorized — Amy @ 12:02 pm

One of the things we say about Monkey in the Middle is that he is someone who feels every emotion more deeply than anyone else.

It’s why he can go from zero to sixty in terms of his anger.

It’s also why he is the biggest snuggle-monkey in the house.

He is me.

When I love, I love deeply and unconditionally and with everything I have.

And today, being Valentine’s Day, is a great reminder of how we should all strive to love with everything we have.

Just walking through the school office, a few minutes ago, there were reminders of how people express their love.

There were at least two bouquets of roses for two teachers, a fruit bouquet for one of our male teachers, and I watched as my friend opened a neat gift from her husband that he sent to school.

In my home, there are reminders of love every day.

Inside jokes and laughter.

Kisses, tickles and touches given on the fly, as we walk by each other.

Laundry and dishes being done without having to be asked.

Valentine’s cupcakes for the kids that Real Man picked up to surprise them for breakfast.

It’s the little things, in our house, that remind us of how much we all love each other.

So, may your Valentine’s Day be filled with both the big and the little reminders of love.

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